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writes: I recently have developed feelings for my older brothers best friend. I am 28 and he is 38. We've known each other for 5 years and he has admitted he has feelings for me also. For about a month now we have been having a secret relationship behind my brothers back. How do we tell him and get him to accept it. We both feel as though we could fall in love but I know my brother will freak out and not support us.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (11 November 2009):
 I think when you and your brother have some time alone, tell him that you're really interested in his friend and would like to pursue a relationship with him. Don't ask his permission, but et him know you are telling him this because you don't want things to be awkward between the three of you. He may be more likely to support a relationship if you bring things out in the open--the sneaking around will probably piss him off more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): Why would your brother freak out? I don't understand how his best friend's and sister's romantic involvement would rationally evoke such a drastic reaction in him (unless your brother and his friend have been romantically involved in the past)? You are both free to love whomever you want, after all, especially at this age. Perhaps if you elaborated a little more I would be better able to understand this situation.
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