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*ellilove2000
writes:Am so down and hurting. How can the man I have love truely do this to me. And for my stupidity and low self esteem, I couldn't break up with him.It hurts my somuch. I have tried to forgive him but I always remember and that is . I remember going to his end one day and met a lady washing his things, when I asked him he said she was a friends girlfriend. I believed cos he is staying with a friend.He later asked me to leave cos I did not informed him of my coming. A fool as i was I could not take any action. It hurts me somuch when I think of it.One of his numerous girlfriends called me once and informed me that she was pregnant with my boyfriend. When I even asked him he denied it. The girl sometimes calls and insult me. He said he has broken up with the girl that was the reason why she was doing that. That was true but he cheated on me.He later admited that he told the girl that he had someone but the lady forced herself on him.When I think of all that, it hurts me somuch. Loving someone who does not love you and when you are ready to leave, he is now loving you.I know that he will never stop being unfaithful. Is time to walk out of it.He did hurt me but I don't want to see him hurting cos I love him very much and wish to be with him for the rest of my life but unfortuantely I can't be with him cos I don't trust him any more.It hurts me somuch and at times I feel like ending my life. He betrayed my trust and lied to me. And broke my heart and he is now telling me he sorry and that he loves me. It hurts somuch. I don't even want to love again. When I live him, I will never love again.
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 He does not love you as much as you love him. He is trashing your love and you are letting him do it. Leave that foul man now. Because if he truly loved you like you love him he would NEVER be having sex or staying with other women. NEVER! It hurts badly but you will get over it and don't kill off love now you have so many wonderful and honest people to meet in your life. So ditch this hurtful guy and put all your energy into something that beautifies you and strengthens you!
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reader, samohir  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 Oh, dear, Im sure there would be enough space in ur hearth to embrace the love again,sure u re not one of those stiffing people that close their hearts and minds all live,ending desperate and unhappy as result! the point is u must give ur sweet love to somebody who deserves it. I know is hard to get rid of this guy, ive been in such situation for 9 months,he was giving nothing to me,ejecting me constantly and was foolish, I loved Him so MUCH. I was going to his flat every night, ringing him, doing unlogical things, but he was consumed with his vanity and cold=-heartes, never returned to me. Well, i interpreted like that. When i look back i can conclude he just didnt love me, and was fair enough from his side to let me go, just let me go. I was stuck in nowhere, couldnt manage my daily things, depression came and pain,pain that affected all body and being. There are 2 ways to get out of this, i prefer the 1st: Be with ur self a bit, gain strenght, tell urself That HE DOESNT DESERVE YOU, and That u Can Find Better and that is FUTILe to do anything if getting no feedback....Than try to find somebody who is loving you, or even Fun can solve the problem. The other way is get mixed with people more, socialization and focusing on the thing that are important for u ,will distract thinking of him... You ll get beeter and can enjoy and love again... I know it needs time, i will not lie to say will get over through night but be patient. Forget about him, Dont call him anymore, and u ll see what will happen, if u ment to him something he will Come Back, but be prepared not to be in Subordinate position. IT will hurt, u ll get over and than u ll be much stringer and will appriciate things more clearly. Thats what i can tell you.YOU will and can Love again:)
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