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writes:I need a little help:( I am a 28 year old man who has been married for 6 years. I have a wife and a 5 year old son who I love with all my heart.My problem is, since my wife gave birth to our son she has had problems with her temper and anger. She becomes very cruel and vindictive at me. This happens for 2 weeks of every month. And has done for the past 5 years.. I love them both so much, but I keep getting hurt by her constant mood swings and aggression. Everything I do is never good enough for her, it's like I am a constant thorn in her side. I try to talk to her about it when the coast is clear, but she does not see a problem (or change in herself) I go on trying to ignore the pain but sometimes can not take anymore and I begin to fight back. We end up having a major fight which makes the whole drama worse. I feel terrible that my son sometimes see's us fighting as I do not want him to see this. Basically my wife and I have had an arguement of which got a little heated to say the least and now she is talking about divorce... I really don't know what to do as I love them both so much and my life really wouldn't be worth living without them.. Please help me with a little guidance.I am not very good at saying how i feel like this so please forgive me.
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (13 February 2008):
When was the last time you took her out to dinner without your son? When was the last time the two of you went out anywhere on a romantic date? Sometimes as new parents we get so bogged down in being parents that we forget to be partners. For her to be emotional two weeks out of every month may indicate hormone imbalance or iron deficiency. Also post natal depression is another factor. It is hard to find a happy medium in marriage but sit down and talk to her with pen and paper and honestly ask her to write down what she finds displeasing and what she likes in the marriage and what she would like to happen or to change. Tell her that you love her and want to work things out and go from there. Thyroid problems also can make a mild woman into a nightmare to be with. Relationship counselling or mediation is another option but first do the list and work out what is the problem. If she refuses to go to counselling then tell her that you would be willing to go yourself so that you can get the support you need to better understand her. Good luck mate and I wish you all the best.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Try to see from her point of view and bend as far back as you can . This is what love is all about. She has her needs too.Marriage is about satisfying each other's needs.
In marriage it is about pleasing our partners. If she has got an itch , we help them to scratch where it itches and where she cannot scratch them.
We sacrifice our liberty and sometimes our rights in order to make our partner happy.
Go to her and apologize with a bouquet of flowers and show that you are truly sorry and regretted for that incident and most importantly , tell her that you love her!!!!!!!
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reader, sue88 +, writes (13 February 2008):
Its valentines day, why not book a table get a baby sitter and have a nice night out just the 2 of you, make the whole thing a supprise and just totally enjoy one anothers company.
Maybe to see the nice soft side of you in a romantic light for the night may just be a nice change for the both of you, you no she may be a little different after having a child, many women change, now she has another little person in her life to take care of.
Take care and let me no how you get on
sue
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