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writes:I have been separated from my husband for over a year and an half. We were married for 9 years and have 2 beautiful little girls. One day he decided that he was leaving. He said he was not happy. The next news I knew he was filling for a divorce. I later found out that he had met up with an old girlfriend on a field trip that he went on with our daughter and that she had given him her phone number and they had been talking on the phone for 2 weeks before he left me. She was married as well, but her husband was in prison for drugs. I know it sounds like a Jerry Springer show and I felt like I was living a soap popper. Long story short, she divorced her husband while he was in prison and She and my husband moved in together. Well we on the other hand are still trying to get our divorce final. It went on for so long because he didn't want to pay alimony even though he was living with another woman. So we were going for a jury trial. Well the day of the jury trial he decided to settle. We settle and are waiting on all the paperwork to be completed and signed. We settled March of this year and everything is still not signed and done. I think that God has a hand in this. Meanwhile her husband gets out of Prison and she was talking to him behind my husbands back. When he found out she come up with some lie and he left but then went back within a few days. I believe it is just a matter of time before she goes back to her ex husband but my husband believes that she really loves him. The girlfriend and her ex husband have 2 children as well. The ex husband and I are friends and have known each other since we were little kids. It is a small town and everyone knows everybody pretty much. Well her ex husband and I kinda sorta started talking. Just as friends and it started moving to other places and now I had to put a stop to it. It is just too confusing. my husband and I would talk and our girl/boyfriends names would come up and this would happened with our boy/girl friends as well. Because we all had children together. I know it sounds crazy. I really miss my husband, but he is falling for this girl that is just using him. They are not married, but yet she has talked him into doing all sorts of stupid things. He spends more time with her children than ours. He got a tattoo with her name on his back and has never in his life had a tattoo and is deathly afraid of nettles. We were married 9 years and he never got a tattoo with my name on it. It just hurts. I have tried to get over this, but I really think that she is just using him until her ex husband comes home permanently and gets a decent job and then she is going right back to him. Her thing is she was tired of being alone and she is one of those people that does things just to say she did it. Like yeah I busted of your family. You know what I mean. See her ex husband is out of prison, but is in a half way house and is only able to come home on the weekends right now. Their children go and stay with him when he is home. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do. I really love my husband and He has told me himself that he can't trust her. He even bought her a cell phone to put on his plan so he could monitor who she talks to because he didn't trust her. He told me this. How can you be happy with someone you can't even trust?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): Exactly, how could you be happy with somebody you can't trust? I know you love your husband, you miss him and would love for him to come back home to you and your son. You say that God had a hand in delaying your divorce and it's settlement, I think your wrong, I think this was the work of Satan the devil.
Your husband has a tattoo with her name on his back, even if he came back to you, you would have this reminder of how he cheated on you, and left you alone to run after his old girlfriend. He has treated you with contempt and disrespect and still you want him to come home. It could be a fling, it could be midlife crisis, but it's been serious enough for him to throw away your marriage, ignore your son and put up with her antics just to be with her.
Forget about him honey, he dosen't love you, it seems that he love's his ex-girlfriend, enough to love her kids and put up with a husband on the scene. Don't you deserve more than waiting around untill this woman throws him out and he comes back to you because he's got nowhere else to go.
He's wearing her mark, and that beats a wedding ring, a son, a loving wife and a 9year relationship hands down. It can't go back to the way it was. He will never forget her, he will always love her. He left you because he prefered her better. Sorry babes, I know it hurts. But this man dosen't love or respect you, so move on and find somebody else to love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): The question is" do you think he deserves to have your love and your kids?? I'm not sure of that.. As a sister I would say, let him go" let him do what he wants to do, and you as a nice wife and nice mother, focus on your life, focus on your kids, one day he will come back and tell you how sorry he is. The problem is when that time comes, if you are already at the stage that you have already moved on and you are then much stronger... good luck..XXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): sweetie, you think he's worth it and all you can dream of now is having his heart but believe me...he's worthless and you Will find someone so much better and more worthy of you...be strong, walk away and I garantee that eventually you will look back and wonder what you ever saw in him
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