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anonymous
writes:my girlfriend has expressed to me she cannot masturbate to an orgasm, and she wants to know tips on how (without toys, vibrators, etc) she can.thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): had a friend who experianced the same difficulties - her doctor recommended - and it worked for her - using a towl or blanket of varying textures and gently rub...not full on pressure, just gentle touches...she liked it
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): okay lets clarify here, ive given her many many orgasms, she just cant do it herself. with that in mind, what are ways she on her own can orgasm? she says she only rubs her clitoris, i am of the opinion fingering herself would help but i wouldnt know, might not turn her on with her doing it.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (16 December 2009):
 Vibrators and toys can be very useful when someone is just learning how to masturbate. I don't see why she would exclude those from consideration if she is having difficulty. They don't have to be lifelike dildos, they can simply be body massagers. The point is that it's likely she needs to stimulate her clitoris. She also needs to be aware that she shouldn't simply lie there; she should be tensing her muscles in her lower body as well. That apparently is a point that non-orgasmic women miss. Squeeze the muscles of her thighs and buttocks and create some tension in the pelvis.
As for specific tips, well, every person will have individual needs/wants, and what works for one person may simply not work for another. There are lots of sites out there with techniques, I'll give you a link she can follow.
I think you should also give her privacy; if she has not had an orgasm ever, she is unlikely to with you watching her, as it may distract her and be counterproductive.
Why not introduce a vibrator that fits over your hand into your next session? Apply it gently over the clitoral area and be patient. Remember the pelvic tension tip too for her, ask her to tense her pelvic muscles.
Vibrators and toys aren't cheating; some women just need the RPM, there's nothing to be angry or ashamed about. And they can be used to show her what an orgasm feels like, then you both can have the pleasure of figuring out how to do it without aid.
http://www.sexinfo101.com/kb_mastlad.shtml
Have fun!
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