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writes:I would like as many opinions on this topic as I can get. I am going through a recent break up. My ex boyfriend and I really had no problems until his ex realized that he was heading back to the top again. My question is: My ex expressed to me how when he was at the very lowest point of his life his ex girlfriend just turned her back on him. At first I questioned because there are 2 sides to every story. Anyway, he and I dated about 6 months or so and I have been involved with his family life a little(Not the type to try and bond because it's what he and I want so it doesnt matter if they like me or not). Moving right alone me and his mother one day had a conversation and she just expressed to me what she thought of me and how she appreciated me for accepting her son when he thought he was out there alone. From that I just went right along and asked her why he and his x had parted. She didn't appear to try and impress me by praising me and discrediting her at all so I felt she was being truthful. Her words to me was when my boy was at his lowest she walked out. She also expressed to me that he would go out of his way to make sure she had all she wanted and needed. She also said that when it didn't go her way she would constantly ask him out of her place. Question? if someone isn't there for you when you are at your worst why or how could you even consider them when things are better? I ask because I was there for him through all and I seem to have been taken for granted and my feelings have not been considered. Open for any opinions as to why do people hurt those that will weather the storm with them just to make it past the storm and go back to the one's wouldn't even throw you a life jacket to keep you afloat. This has not been the first occasion this happens the way it was told to me it's almost routine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Simply because they know you are always there for them and whatever they do, you are always waiting with open arms. The reason why they come running after this people who leave them is because they feel they still don't have them at all. It's a classic, you want what you can't have. And in your case, they have you.My suggestions is, why not turn it around? What if from now on you start to move on with your life and show him you won't tolerate this kind of behavior? Most of the time, they will turn around too and come running after you. It always worked for me. If not, atleast I set myself free earlier then they expect me to move on and that proves that they have no value to me afterall. That's my revenge.Good luck and be strong.
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