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writes:I'm going to try and make this as clear and easy to understand as much as I can. At the beginning of 2010,I met up with a guy I haven't seen or talked to for over ten years for a date. We never bothered to talk or date til 2010 because he had a gf for 7 years. I thought things were going good. He told me I was beautiful and that he had all these feelings for me and bought me dinners and flowers wanted to meet my parents and even dedicated a song he liked to me and told me it made him think of me. it was almost perfect then about a month after I started seeing him, for whatever reason things went bad and something happened so I broke it off with him then I got back together with him and I did something bad to him not going to say what it is but he won't admit it but I think it hurt him bad emotionally. So we go our separate ways for about 7 and a half months and then we start seeing each other again as "friends with benefits" because he said he didn't want to develop feelings for me again that he just wanted sex and I agreed. Well months go by of us doing this and I get feelings and I find out I'm pregnant by him. So I tell him and he's not happy and we talk about the baby and what I did to him that I assumed it hurt him and he didn't want to talk about this. Every time I bring it up, His face gets bright red and he starts to sniffle and won't look at me and that's the only time he does that. Then another time I text him and I tell him I still have feelings for him and then he starts denying that he ever had any feelings for me and saying all this other stuff i know we did together and said never happened and was never said that he never will have feelings for me because of what i did to him and that we'd never be together. Obviously he once had feelings for me. Why do you think he's saying that he never did ?? cause hes hurt ?? then after he says all this horrible stuff he says to me, I ended our "friends with benefits" thing we had and told him its over for good and i'll never do it with him again because things are so horrible and confusing between us and I told him not to text me for sex any more I'm pregnant with his baby and that it's too hard on me and first he said he was glad it was over and then he asked me why we couldnt have sex one more time and kept begging me for sex all the time after i told him not to.Here he admitted he was seeing a few other women yet he still calls me for sex after i ended it with him for good. Why do you think this is ? Why me ? :-/ I'd ask him but he comes up with stupid answers so I don't bother to talk with him anymore once I realized the whole thing is a disaster and nothing good will ever come out of it except for a baby. I just wanted to see what other people think. I think it'll help me move on.Also why do you think his face gets bright red and he sniffles only when i bring up the bad thing that i did to him ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): I agree with Cerberus. Whatever you did that hurt your BF was a deal breaker for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2011): First off he calls you asking for sex because he wants sex, there's no mystery to that OP, you were willing to do it before he's just checking to see if you will again. You were his casual lay for a long time OP, it's nice to have a girl like that around and every once and while it's worth checking if they want to again or not.
As for the sniffles, well it must have been pretty bad OP if it completely ruined everything for him. Whatever it was means he's not willing to invest any emotions into you ever again. It's that simple, I personally think he loved you but what you did was a deal breaker for him and now he will never admit to ever having feelings for you because he will never risk a relationship with you again.
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