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writes:How can my bf and I get our own place? We want a flat desperately as he's homeless (he's been secretly living in my bedroom for 3 months) and I'm going crazy in my house as my relationship with my mum is dire. At the beginning of September my Mum and I had a massive fallout and she kicked me out. I went to the council with my boyfriend and they didn't really do much, they just said that if K (my boyfriend) went on Jobseekers allowance then the council would fund a deposit on a flat but we'd have to find it, and that if I lived with him he would recieve the child benefits that my mum is currently recieving for me. I'm 17 and studying for my A levels, and K is 21 and desperately looking for a job although he has no qualifications whatsoever.I know it takes a long time to get a place anyway, but as I'm under 18 and he's jobless and has a poor credit rating we're absolutely stuck. Advice please! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): . . . . and the answer to the question is to tell him to get a job, save enough money for a deposit and first month's rent, get himself down to the nearest estate or letting agency, hand over the cash and Bingo! Job done!Phil
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (23 September 2007):
Looks like this bloke is using you like he seems to be using everybody else.
If he doesn't love you enough to get off his backside and get a job, even if it is nothing regular there are people looking for casual labour all over the place nowadays and tracking temporary work down is not that difficult if you have the right attitude towards it. No matter what that job is surely he should have a decent attitude towards it to show he is really worthy of you?
You do not say why he is homeless - is he intentionally homeless or is he homeless through no fault of his own?
As for letting him have your family allowance - If he had been living with you at your mums place for three months I would suggest that she should now continue to have this allowance as a compensation for putting uo with the both of you. I also cannot help wondering how many cans of lager your family allowance would buy too.
Ditch him - concerntrate on your A levels as doing them will improve your self worth and help contribute a better future for you, one I feel would be a whole lot better without this guy around. As for your Mum - with this guy out of your life and a better attitude towards your future you will have a much better chance of getting her back on side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): Why attach yourself to such a loser? He's nothing but a sponger living off everyone else, and thinks the world owes him a living. There are jobs to be had out there and I think if he was serious enough about finding one he'd have one by now.
I'm sure you could do better for yourself than this. No wonder your mother kicked you out, I bet she was fed up playing mum to him as well.
Remember, your mum will always be your mum and she'll always love you, no matter how much you hurt her, but it will take time to re-build your bridges, so to speak.
Best of luck - you'll need it if you don't get rid of him.
Phil
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