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writes:Hey guys, it's my first time on here and I need some serious advice, I have been with my man and the father of my children for a long time and we have had a lot of problems, mainly with me and doing things that I should not have been doing in life but honestly I was young and stupid and made a lot of mistakes. My problem is that now we are at this point and he is so angry because he says that I do not try and I treat him as if he doesn't exist my thing is that I don't like to dwell on the past and I don't really know what to say to him so a lot of the times I don't say anything and that's why I am in this predicament and I need help, please give me some much needed advise :( Reply to this Question
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reader, BradsBabyGirl +, writes (13 January 2009):
Well with my babys daddy I find that defendin myself don't work it makes him angry guys like to be right so with my babys daddy I just give in I have no ego or pride an his love means so much more than losing him completely Idk how you feel about giving in but if you're ok with it then say you're sorry that you're making him unhappy that it hurts for yall to be like you are an wish you could change the past ect. That got me another chance but I had to beg an apologize for the past two days he's stubborn. Also try to avoid subjects you know will make him mad that will push him further over the edge. I wasn't that smart an always touched sore subjects an I wish I would've known then what I just told you now
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reader, shanta153 +, writes (13 January 2009):
shanta153 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsomeone help me know what to say to him because he says that everything i talk about is not important to our relationship or he gets mad and says all that i do is try and defend myself and detour the situation what do you tell someone who is looking for answers that you dont have?
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reader, shanta153 +, writes (13 January 2009):
shanta153 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits not that i dont know what to do its that i dont know what to say beacause he always says that there should be so much i should be having to say and i rack my brain and all i can come up with is the same generic answers which makes him more mad what do i do?
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (13 January 2009):
 bradsbabygirl has a great point. My bby daddy and i arent together in a way either. (but thats a diff reason). the way my sister explained it to me is that guys are like puppies. They want love and attention and they want you to show you care, and like dogs, you show that by giving them food or petting them (touch). with a guy you could make him a romantic dinner and show him you love him, or get sexually intimate with him. but passionatly, not just he im horny type of thing. Also if he is having a moment, like a puppy (when they are mad) you back off. I would try to make him a romantic dinner and rent his favorite movie and maybe get a few of his fav. snacks... if that doesnt work, maybe arange for him to have a guys night out or wat not, and if that doesnt work i would talk to him, find what he wants, and like she said, comprimise.. (spelling sucks, i know.)
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reader, BradsBabyGirl +, writes (13 January 2009):
Hmm sound like my babies daddy he's not to thrilled with my past we're broken of at the moment cause of that an he said I treated him like shit but you can't make a guy forget your past guys are very jealous but try doin something to show you care make him dinner, watch a movie or give him a massage guys like to feel wanted just like we do just involve him with what you do if that don't work sit down an ask him what he wants make compromises
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