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writes:I have a question that may sound silly, but how can i try and push myself to not liking women?. I am a female that is bisexual and I have a boyfriend that I am very in love with and we are very serious about each other, but the problem is i've been wanting a threesome with a woman and he agreed before but it didn't happen. Now we are having relationship issues and the opportunity popped up again the other day to which he is saying forget it while i really want to. I've never had that experience with a woman before because it just never happened witht he girl i was going to do it with. I don't want to like girls, or i want to at least not acknowledge these sexual feelings towards women because Im scared that I am getting close to wrecking the relationship we have which is a bit shaky as it is. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHum it helped a bit, and he knows that i am bisexual, we both have a bit of gender identity issues that helped bring us closer but now it's like it will drive us apart. Its just after we had done something with the girl so see our comfort he took mine the wrong way and thinks its not worth it. I am comfortable with it and just wanted to make sure that nothing will come between us and he mistook it as damaging instead of reassuring. When we got together a little over a year ago we both gave up things we wanted to do, and mine was I gave up being in a physical relationship with another girl since i had met him and now I just want to experience things without the risk of losing a great relationship.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (23 November 2010):
 Does your boyfriend know you are a bisexual? If he does not, I suggest you tell him, only on the basis that there is honesty and awareness between the two of you.
This is not a problem of sexuality, it is the questionable outcome of a threesome. Most threesomes lead to complex emotional struggles that may or may not ruin your relationship. Either you or your boyfriend could feel something more towards the other woman or either of you could focus more on the other woman. Threesomes almost never end well.
It is alright to feel an attraction towards a woman. What is wrong with that? Why do you feel the need to erase this part of you? You should be free to feel things. Do not confine yourself to distorted beliefs, it is always okay to be who you truly are.
I hope that helps.
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