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writes:Hey guys,Ive got myself into s suituation and now i cant see any light at the end of the tunnel.Ive been with my boyfriend for just over 2 year and now im living with him. in the beginning of our relation i was happy until i read a message that he had kissed someone else, the first thing i did was confront him and the matter got resolved. However the main problems occoured in the summer, we had a long distance relationship for 4 months and during this time he had changed. He wouldnt answer my calls and then ring me saying his phone keeps cutting off. i told him i believed him but still was really supicious. the summer had ended and we finally moved into our new flat and everything was going grest. Until one day a week b4 my birthday i got a message on facebook from a girl telling me that my boyfriend had been sleeping with her and she needed to tell me. you can all imagine how i felt. i asked him about it and he said it was once but im still not convinced.Im at the point were i feel trapped, i love my boyfriend but still cant trust him. i wonder wot he is doin all the time, even if he has just gone to the shop. i check his emails and text messages and he knows i do it. Could he be deleting things and still cheating on me?How do u get over a partner cheating and move on with the relationship?Is there much point moving on?If anyone could give me advice i would appreciate it i cant talk to anyone about this cause i dont want anyone to find out. Thanks
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reader, bebe18  +, writes (26 May 2009):
wow..
you know something im really in the same situation and i understand how you feel.. its all these doubts and these empty feelings you have inside your chest.
I think that wen thers no type of trust there will never be..
but pple do mistakes and they learn from those mistakes..everyone deserves a chance but just one* and if he did you roung agingg leave him and show him youuu deserve better then that.. it takes time to forget all thoes memories but why would you stay stuckk in the sameeeee person that has hurten you..
love is really complicatedd =[
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reader, 19agegap +, writes (7 April 2008):
u can't trust him. u should move on. if he really loves u, he'll earn back ur trust
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reader, peaches83 +, writes (7 April 2008):
 The saying a leopard never changes his spots is true. I found this out. My boyfriend cheated on me and i let him off with it however because i had not done anything about ie ie- leaveing him he felt he could do it again becasue i wasnt going to do anything.
You cant have a good relationship with out trust. Always been suspisious and paraniod will drive you crazy.
Get out and live your life without him. You will find some one that is true to you.
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reader, raima  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 dear friend i am so sorry to know abt your problem but you dont worry i have just caugt my husband also mailing ti his old gf using dear darling and missing you so much type such words i also felt cheated nut i straight away talk to him even i fighted also i mean not like that but i asked him if there is someproblem with me so you should talk to me first there is nothing wrong atleast this type of bullshit which your are doing having no sence. than my directly told him that better you leave cause i am not intrested to spoil my like and love to somone who have no feelingd for me so......later he appolize and swer not to do it again but till now i am not conviced i am keeping eye on him ............better you also do the same i dont know weathr it will help you or not try me be it will make some thing to you.
i hope you will find the answer of your problem. take care
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reader, superbunny +, writes (7 April 2008):
 If you can't trust him, you shouldn't be in a relationship with him. The suspicions will eat you from the inside out, whether they are true or not. If he is your boyfriend, he should be making you feel like a princess, so you don't feel like he'd cheat on you or anything.
I think you probably could've gotten over the kiss. But if he's been regularly sleeping with someone, it's a totally different ballgame. People say that guys detatch emotion from sex, but it's only girls who are pushovers that let them get away with it.
I wouldn't take the crap from him to be honest.
If you want to talk more feel free to message me, I'd be happy to help. =] x
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reader, I care  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 oh your poor girl I hate cheaters to start with, so I don't if this advice will help you much. In my experience once a cheater always a cheater and you don't need that kind of hurt. To me if there is no trust in a relationship than there is no relationship and if the man loves you he won't cheat cus look at it this way if you love someone would you cheat on them. Your not a door mat don't let him treat you like one you deserve better than that and beleive me there is better out there for you. Good luck, and I hope this advice helps you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): well theres 2 sides to the argument
on one hand yu love him so you should forgive him if it was JUST a one off cause everywun makes mistakes and do thingsz they regret..
and your young so maybe be tyed down to a serious relationship lead him tu temptation..
orn the other hand if you cant Trust Him theres really no point in you 2 goin out..
cuz yu will never be able tu relax or anything round him..
you can either speak tu him seriously and ask him if it was more than once if it was than not onli has he cheated to you he has lied to you..
do you really want to be with someone like that?
your choice
good luck
x Smiirksz x
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