A
male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hello. This may seem a little arrogant but I'm increasingly starting to feel that this married woman at work may fancy me but is doing her best to try and convey that she doesn't. Is there any way of telling without being confrontational? I know that her marriage is on the rocks - I heard it on the grapevine. I've fancied her for ages, incidentally and have conducted myself around her professionally at all times. However, I know that another guy in the department fancies her and he may make a move on her unless I beat him to it. I know I shouldn't but it hurts me to just be her colleague. I want more and feel the right to make an approach having worked with her fleetingly over 5 years. Many thanks. P.S. Just read the above - doesn't sound particularly good from a moral standpoint, does it? Oh well - I guess that honesty is the best policy at Dear Cupid! Thanks again.
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reader, thebeardedguy  +, writes (26 September 2009):
Wait..
Don't make a move now. I agree to ask_oldsister, don't tempt her now. Perhaps she may reconcile things with her husband and live with him happily.
Or may be (extreme thought), as you said her marriage is on the rocks, or whatever, the reasons may be because she may have started feeling for you and not paying heed to her hubby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): Approach her and tell her that if she ever needs a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen to her problems, that you're there for her. Then see what her reaction is. That might be a good way to kill two birds with one stone.
I bet your gut is correct and she does fancy you. And if you do truly care about her, you'll be there to help and who knows where else that might lead after that. Good luck!
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