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writes:hi I'm 13 and my mum recently put me on the pill but I don't want to take it. I was wondering does anyone know how I could tell my mum I don't want to take it without shouting or fighting please???
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): why are you taking the pill in the first place,your way to young for that. you need to speak to your mum.
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reader, lilly_08  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Why has your mum put you on the pill???
its very hard to answer this question without knowing the reason behind why you are on it.. When I was 13 my mum put me on the pill but it was not for birth control it was to regulate my periods I used to get it for 12 days and it was painful and very heavy within a month of being on the pill my periods settled into a regular pattern only lasted 5 days and there was almost no pain at all.. so you need to tell us why your mother has put you on the pill.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (2 March 2008):
Under UK law, if you object to medication which your mother (or other non medically qualified adult) requires you to take and for which there is no medical reason, then she is committing an offence.
First talk to your mum. Try to reason with her and understand why she feels the way she does. This does not mean you have to agree with her, just understand.
If this does not work, see your doctor. If you are clear and articulate (can express yourself well) and show some maturity about this, not only is the doctor required to maintain your confidentiality, he/she can assist you in addressing this problem. Once you turn 16 you have an absolute right to confidentiality with your doctor and do not have to prove or demonstrate appropriate maturity.
So essentially, try to talk calmly with your mother, and really do try to understand why she wants you to take it. Like I said before, understanding does not mean agreeing.
And second, if that fails, see your doctor. If you are still unhappy then as a last resort talk to childline. It is a free number for you and you will get some advice that is specific to you and whatever you have tried till then. They are also likely to have past examples of girls that were in exactly the same situation as yourself.
Good luck.
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (2 March 2008):
 Are you on the pill for medical reasons (i.e. heavy periods)? your GP must have agreed to this as well as your mother. 13 is young to go on the pill as you are still developing and growing. Talk to your mum reasonably, it's your body and so the choice lies with you whether you want to take the pill. If you are on this because of medical reasons are there other alternatives you can try? this needs to also be discussed with your GP. If you are having sex, you need to be using a condom as the pill will only prevent pregnancy not sexual diseases. Hope this helps.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (2 March 2008):
 we need more details WHY did she put you on the pill in the first place. x
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reader, kendylsmom  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 why do you not want to take it? If you are having sex at 13 it is very important that you dont get pregnant. It may sound like a good idea but you have ALL your life to have sex, and have kids. Focus more on other things b/c trust me when you are 25 like me you will look back and realize that you wish you could change some things. I would tell your mom the truth. If you are having sex then tell her, she obviously would not be shocked if you were b/c she put you on the pill. If you are not then tell her that also. YOur mom is looking out for you and she is not trying to hurt you. But if you are having sex please rethink it b/c like i said you have ALL your life for sex and babies. You dont want to be a mom in your teens!
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (2 March 2008):
 why is she putting you on the pill at such a young age? are you having sex? if you are, then she is right, but there are alternatives to the pill such as the injections, and the tab in your arm. however, if you are not sexually active, then i dont see any point in you being on the pill at such a young age. just tell her that you dont feel comfortable being on it and that it is making you feel unwell or something - if there is no real reason for being on it, then i dont see why she wouldnt understand. email me if you want, im on the pill also, but i am older then you. and i would like to know why you are on the pill etc. id like to help you!
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (2 March 2008):
 there are alot of alternitives to taking the pill, a patch or a 3 monthly injection.
however. i think the biggest question is WHY do you not want to take the pill? whats your reason for not wanting it?
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reader, Jargenhunter +, writes (2 March 2008):
Say mom, I am worried about being on the pill. Talk with your obgyn and ask why you should be on these pills. A small study has come out recently that linked birth control pill use and breast cancer. It is a relatively small scope study, but had big enough an impact for my obgyn to mention it.
The study is listed in the magazine Cancer Epidemiology, Biomarkers & Prevention (Vol.11: 1375-1381).
Also, if you are not sexually active, you might want to speak with your obgyn and your mother about maybe writing you a prescription that you could use if you do become active, but wouldn't have to take now. This would reduce your mom's worry and get you off the pills.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2008): just say to her, mum i dont feel comfortable with the causes. its making you get stomach cramps and changing your peroids :S just tell her that its causing you trouble and you dont want to take it no more. she will understand dont worry. x
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