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writes:Hey guys, I really need your help. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now (I'll be 20 next week, my boyfriend is 22). I've kept it secret from my dad the entire time though; when I went to visit him my dad would think I was going away with friends. My mum has always known the truth, but agreed that it would be better to keep my dad out of the loop at first. Let's just say he can be a bit difficult.My boyfriend thinks it's time the truth came out though because I'll be going to stay with him for a month this summer. I don't know how I'm going to tell my dad - even if I make up a plausible excuse for the summer I can't keep my boyfriend secret forever. What do you think would be the best way to come out with the truth about our relationship? :(Please, please don't judge me for having lied for so long. My family situation is complicated at the best of times, and at the beginning of my relationship even my mum thought keeping quiet would be the best thing to do. Neither of us had any idea the months would slip by like this.Thank you so much for any advice x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): Hi there. I'm in your situation. I'm 20, and have been with my LDR boyfriend for two years. My parents dont know.When I was 17 and had first met this guy, my parents were very protective of me and worried about boys. They still are, but they've pulled back a bit now. They've realized I'm an adult. Ive decided now is a good time to tell them.I havent told them yet, but I plan too when I move out which is soon. The reason for this is because it will allow me to keep my private life seperate from my family one. I think you know what I mean...parents constantly asking about updates, where youre going with the guy, what you did, etc. Since you already live with your mom, and dont see your dad everyday this makes things much easier for you. First, wait till you turn twenty. Then calmly approach your dad and say "I'd like to tell you about a great guy I met, we're going out and I'd love for you to meet him."Dont mention how long youve been going out. If he asks, simply say 'awhile' Your dad does not need to know specifics. The fact is, he needs to be included in your life and accepting of your relationships if he wants to continue to be included. Remind him you will always be his little girl (a reason many dads gets so upset about boys) but remember to tell him you, as an adult, are going to start having personal relationships.
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