A
female
age
41-50,
*nowwhite83
writes:Dear reader:I have been dating this wonderful man for almost a year. We love and respect each other and everyday we become closer. He has even stated his intentions to propose to me and to ask me to move in together if I say yes. I love everything about this man: his politeness (that sometimes seems opposite), honesty, care, love, ambition,... the only problem that I have is his extreme honesty and that in public during his conversations he says things that seem offensive to people (and a few times to my mom that he is close to, but still...). "Such as, are you married? how come you don't have your ring on? or how could you switch from that job to this one?" or to my mom "you know, you don't have to cover your mouth when using toothstick, people use washrooms sometimes". How can I communicate this feeling with him and not making him feel that he embarrases me? He has told me before to let him know if anything about him bothers me and that I would protect him by doing. But still I do not want to hurt him.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (13 May 2012):
 You gotta tell him. And the sooner the better. You could simply say, "You know honey, the other night at dinner you said something that sounded kind of odd and it was sort of inappropriate..." Then tell him what he said and once he understands don't harp. Just drop it and hopefully next time he'll resist the urge to blurt something like that out.
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