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writes:Hey, I think I have been struck with the love bug and it's killing me!! I have seen this hot chick on the bus I get, I fancied her from the minute I saw her mainly because she is hot! Recently I have found out the woman I liked for many years is getting married. This through me into liking the bus driver chic even more. I have just spent a week away and I went back to work today. I wanted her to be on the bus home but then i didn't think i had a hope in hells chance. Turns up she was and it was great! She keeps looking at me in her mirror and I sit at the back staring at her in the mirror! Today she was playing with her bra, rubbing her neck and making me go insane at the back of the bus! She had a v-neck jumper on and pulled it down basically telling me what i was missing! Everytime she done something like that she looked in her mirror and smirked. I don't know whether I am getting the looks of "ooh freaky girl stop looking at me" or "I fancy you too!" How can I tell? I want to give her my number but I'd feel so stupid. It's not everyday you get on the bus and one of the passengers gives you her number. It doesn't help that we are both chics! Any help would be great. Thx Reply to this Question
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reader, Buddy +, writes (11 April 2007):
Buddy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey ukmatt,
thanks for your help. You really took time in it, its much appreicated! I do like her and i saw her a few months ago before the whole marriage thing came about so i dont think im on the rebound. I just need to do something to get her off my bloody mind!! Its driving me insane cos i cant have her. I just don't want her to think im a total freak asking for her or giving her my number. Anyway thanks again :-)
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reader, ukmatt +, writes (11 April 2007):
 I think several pointers can be drawn out of this quandry that you're in, and consequently, pointers that you need to think about before you jump in at the deep end with your number. Firstly though, I don't think your biological genders have anything to do with it. She's a 'chic', you're a 'chic', there's no problems. However, seeing as we are a minority group, I think treading the water before diving in is needed. Anyhow, back to the pointers.. Is this actual attraction or a subconcious way of your psyche dealing with the impending marriage of the woman that you've devoted a lot of your attention to? Sit back, take time to chill and evaluate what your mind is trying to tell you. Is it that you really do fancy this lady, or is it just a rebound attraction, spurred on by the marriage. Secondly, I would say that sitting at the back of the bus is not the way you go about finding out more about this woman. I'm not suggesting in the slightest that your eyes are playing tricks on you, but take to sitting closer to her; this action could have dual purpose. Not only is it allowing you to verify these 'provactive' and 'suggestive' glances, but also gives her the opporunity to notice that you've taken to sitting closer to her, and are interested in being accepted into her zone of personal space. If she has noticed you as you say, she will no doubt notice your change of seat, and this, in itself could be enough to strike up communicative interation. Lastly, it's imperative that you talk to her. Obviously, you don't want to jump straight in..Subtlety must be your forte. There are many comments that can be exchanged to get the interaction underway. Play it cool. Additionally though, although you may be nervous at talking to her, be perceptive to the way that she responds to you. Does her body language tell you that you're safe to proceed (does she, for example, turn slightly to you, does she talk to you without making the effort to turn. Is she smiling when talks to you, etc. As humans we are naturally tuned it to people's body language; you'll know if she's interested. Note also though, that Body Language works both ways..Be conscious of your own. Eye Contact, Talking to her facing her, don't fold your arms etc.) Admittedly, there's a lot of information to take in here, but it's important that you establish what's happening before you go ahead. Casual conversation over several interations can lead up to an exchange of numbers, by which point, you will have enough information (both consciously and subconsciously to let you know whether or not a numerative exchange would be conducive). :) Hope this helps!
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