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anonymous
writes:well you see my boyfriend and i have been together 3 years already. i have a year old son with this guy but he got locked up when my son was 2 weeks old. i dont really feel anything for this guy but he loves me and i cant leave him cuz i'm the only one who is really helping him out through this hard time and if i leave him he wont let me help him anymore and i dont want that. i'm also afraid that when he gets out i'm going to want to get back with him and if i break up with him he wont want me anymore. i'm so confused....please help me....what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2007): First of all, I'm really sorry that you find yourself in this difficult and obviously confusing situation. You're obviously are a caring person and want to help this guy but at the same time it is not your job to rescue people from the situations that they put themselves in. You must understand that there are lots of people out there willing to offer professional advice to him, and that is what would help him more.
If you continue to try and help him you could soon find yourself in a co-dependant relationship leaving you more of a carer than a partner. I know that you care about him, but perhaps the best thing you can do is explain your feelings to him and leave for your own well-being.
Also, if you are hanging on yet you do not hold feelings for him then you are harming him more in the long term.
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