How can I tell if my feelings towards him are reciprocated?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've just gotten out of a pretty serious relationship where the guy was someone I thought I could possibly change from his overbearing and controlling nature to the sweet guy that I knew was underneath his obnoxious exterior. During said relationship, I began having feelings for our mutual friend, someone I had liked prior to my relationship. He was the type of person who was always there for me when I needed and had all the qualities that I love in a guy, but we had never stepped over the friend barrier. He and I have always been "intimate" in that we can lay on each other and hold hands without anything feeling awkward. He compliments me and notices the small things, like the softness of my hands, my earrings, or my new haircut, but I can never tell whether or not he likes me as more than a friend, because we've been this way for a long time. He's cuddly with other girls sometimes, like his close and long time friends, so he would be leaning on me or have his arm around me and then a few minutes later, he would jokingly kiss the fingers of his friend sitting behind us. How can I tell if my feelings towards him are reciprocated? I know for sure that I like him a lot and when he's close, it feels comfortable, but I'm not sure that when he touches me or brings his head close to mine, he means it as just friendly or more.

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