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writes:I work with a man who is divorced and single and we have worked together for over two years. He is 15 years older than me, is a single dad of a 9 year old, and through working with him for so long, I have seen that he has very good character. He is a doctor and has some control issues and I don't mind that because I like men who are dominant and manly and don't mind following his lead. He respects my work and asks me to do a lot for him. I am in a position of taking direction from him and I do not mind at all. He is part of what motivates me to come to work every day. I am sad when he takes vacation. Anyway, I have cooked some things for him which he loved, just things to send home. We have never spent any time together outside of work and he has not taken the initiative to ask me. I feel that we have a mild flirtation going on. It is not blatant or inappropriate, just smiling, laughing, and once in a while a knowing glance regarding something funny. He sat next to me at a holiday party and once when I looked up he was just looking at me. I felt so shy and I had butterflies and just felt like I couldn't engage like I normally would. I cannot make a move with him because it would be way too awkward for me if he was not interested. By the way, he is a normally very friendly and communicative person and that is one of his gifts. I just think he may be interested in me. About a year ago he signed an email with his first name and I did not start calling him by his first name so he hasn't done it again. He also sent me a friend request on Facebook but he is friends with a couple of other people, both male and female, in the office. How can I gauge his true interest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for answering. I think you are right about that. Oddly, I ended up meeting someone amazing when I was out dancing this weekend and I have to admit that meeting this new guy has taken my mind off of my work crush. Life is full of surprises.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 March 2014):
 There really is no way of finding out how he feels unless you ask him, if you are not prepared to do so then you may never know what could have been. I know people may think it is traditional for the man to ask the woman out but really that is not the case any more, if you like someone then you should go for it or else you might just miss your opportunity and regret it for the rest of your life.
You don't need to bluntly tell him that you like him all you need to do is to ask him to accompany you to some place. Whatever interests that you both have, maybe ask him to a movie or to the theater and take it from there. Good luck.
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