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writes:my bf and i are both 15 and virgins and he wants to be a dad so bad, he said the first time we do it he wants to get me pregnant, and i dont want to have a kid till im in my late 20s and i kind of want to wait to even do it. how can i tellm him i want to wait to have kids and do it?, should i break up with him?, or should i do it?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 June 2011):
 He only said all this to have sex with you, and I even warned you about it! Next time try to listen to advice you get.
You could be pregnant yes! So before that happens, you must hurry and take an emergency contraceptive. You need to take it as fast as you can, it must be taken within 72 hours, and the longer you wait the less chance it will have of working.
You get an emergency contraceptive at your doctors or at the pharmacy, prescription free. They can be quite expensive. If you can't find a way to get the emergency contraceptive by yourself, TELL YOUR PARENTS. You are much better off with them knowing you had sex and need the emergency contraceptive, than them finding out you are pregnant and need an abortion!
Hurry!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question he said it was stupid of him to even want a child at are age and last nite and so he said that he wants are first time to be special and me not get pregnant and he was romantic and every thing so we did it and he said he will use a condom and we did it and afterwards i saw that he did not have a condom on., i could i not tell that he didnt have 1on but it was dark and i was a virgin so i didnt know how it was suspose to feel ,., i broke up with him but could i b pregnant? and we dated for 12mounths
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): no, no, no, no, no
It's too bad this is more about what he wants, rather than what would be best for a child. Having two teenage parents, neither of whom have had enough life experience to provide for their children is NOT the best thing for a child.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (23 June 2011):
 No SANE 15 year old boy should want to be a Father. He has not had enough life experience or responsibility to make that choice.
Someone who hopes that you will get pregnant your first time, is not being considerate about you and YOUR life.
Fifteen is just TOO young for ANYONE.
If he keeps pressuring you, then yes, break up. He does not respect your wishes.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (23 June 2011):
You just tell him. There's no "how to" on this one, you just say it straight as it is.
Don't break up with him, let that one be his decision. If he's desperate to have a kid at 15, he can find some other girl to do that with. But if he wants a future with YOU, he will stick to you and wait until the time is right.
If he wants you to get pregnant the first time you do it, wait until you are married with sex.
I wonder how long you've been together? It could be he is just saying this, seeing as there are so many teenage girls who are baby-crazy because of hormones. He could be saying it just to get into your pants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): Its not only about him. Its about you too. You have to get a job, settle properly, study. Its very big responsibility. Just say "No, I'm not ready for this." And it seems you are under pressure. And its not a good thing. Just decline this. If he doesn't approve, that means he wants to have the upper hand and wants everything to be his way. He should understand. I think he's excited about the fact that hell be a dad. And when its done, hell realize it wasn't a wise decision. So, say a big "No".
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 No you don't need to break up with him but you do need to be completely honest and straight with him so that he knows where he stands. Just be straight with him and tell him. The next time you are both alone together tell him you want to talk to him and just explain to him that you are not ready yet to have sex never mind thinking of children and tell him you want to live your life for a while before thinking of having children. If he tries to put pressure on you well then yes you should break up with him because if he cared about you he would respect your decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): don't do it if you feel your not ready! Most people aren't ready for children at your age. Some people still aren't even ready for children in their late 20s!Explain to your BF that you are both still very young, and that there is plenty of time to be parents. At the miunte you should be enjoying each other. Tell him that you want children, but not until later in life, when you can support your family financially/emotionally. I have a lot of respect for you for being so wise in your choices! Just explain them to your BF. He should respect your decision to wait. If he pressures you for sex, maybe it is time to leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011): just tell him. Please dont do it if you dont want to.If you tell him youre not ready and he tries to persuade you he is not a good boyfriend. this is a decision he needs to let you make yourself without him influencing.
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