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writes: Hi i have been dating my bf for over 3 years and half and we lived together for 2 years since i was studying away and everything was perfect. he is an amazing man and i love him more than anything as he does as well. since i moved away from him i have noticed that he dosent take full responsibilities and it makes me real sad and on top of that he promised that we will start our lives together soon but nothing is happening. how can i tell him that i want to build our lives together? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miz7  +, writes (22 November 2012):
Maybe he needs time to decide, if you're talking about a proposal "build lives together." it's either that or I kind of agree he might have been using you.... I think it takes awhile for a guy to propose... I mean my boyfriend told me he wants to marry me but is waiting, he never told me when he will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): "everything was perfect. he is an amazing man and i love him more than anything" "Perfect," "amazing," and "I love him more than anything" in succession, three perennial Dear Cupid Top Ten Red Flags indicating Unrealistic Expectations resulting in Dysfunctional Relationships."he promised that we will start our lives together soon but nothing is happening"Don't believe what he SAYS, believe what he DOES (or DOESN'T do)."how can i tell him that i want to build our lives together?"He knows that's what you want, that's the false promise he's been using to string you along for three years. You're shacking up with him and that's all he wants, a live-in bedmate with no obligation and no commitment required on his part. As my Irish grandmother would have said, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?"
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 Simple you tell him that exactly! Communication is key in a relationship so just be honest with him and tell him what you want, it really is that simple!
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