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writes:I'm 14 and know I'm not ready for sex just yet but my boyfriend and I are hanging out ALONE with my best friend and her boyfriend next weekend.... he is very very experenced.... but I'm not as much.... I was raped when I was younger but thankfuly the man who did it decided 2 think twice after he went in once and I screamed my head off in pain and didn't go in again so my hymen isn't broken meaning sex with him is probably going to be very painful and obviously bloody.Anyway back to the point.... how can I tell my boyfriend NO even though I have already lead him on that I want to?I care about him a lot so I don't want him to be mad (though I'm sure he would not be since he's not that kind of guy) but he might hold it against me as a joke but I don't want that either.Thank you so much for any help or advice. X
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reader, django  +, writes (25 January 2009):
Did you manage?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI KNOW IM UNDER AGE BUT SO IS HE SO ITS TECNICLY NOT ILLEGAL.
WHAT IF I ASKED MY BEST FRIEND TO PLAY THE MOM PART AND NOT LET US BE ALONE???
EVEN THOUGH IM NOT SO SURE SHE COULD PULL THAT OFF SENCE THATS USULY MY JOB WITH HER BECAUSE SHES MORE OF THE SLEEP AROUND KIND OF GIRL (GOD LOVE HER)
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reader, sweetheart03 +, writes (20 January 2009):
Well hurting his feelings shouldn't be the issue. Its about u. Try and think about what u want. If he's not the kinda of guy who will get mad if u say no then don't worrie. Try and tell him before u are alone with him for the weekend that u been thinking about it and u wanna do it and he turns u on but ur not 100 percent sure. And that u wanna wait a while. Tell him I just wanna do it when I'm 100 percent with no doughts. He should understand. But tell him before ur alone. And plan a movie night and get to know him so that way when ur alone u guys don't start kissing and turn into sex. Take ur time ur young and u will know when the time is right in ur heart. Good luck
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reader, django +, writes (20 January 2009):
Tell him you're not ready yet if he makes any advances; apologise if he confronts with your earlier leading him on. As you said he's not the kind of guy who'd have a problem with that, and if he is he's not worth your time anyway.
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