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writes:I have this crush on a guy in my class and he has a crush on me and we both really like each other. Now about a month and we didn't like each other and we were really good friends and we could have normal conversations. But now that we know we like each other I can't talk to him without saying something stupid. He is a little shy so he can't start a conversation. I need your help on how to talk to him without It being awkward or me getting nervous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): Time to ask him out. OP the nervousness that exists between you is because you're both a bit shy and you both already know you like each other so you both feel under a bit of pressure now, you've put an elephant in the room.
So just grab it by the trunk and ask him out on a date. Break the ice by moving things forward. And don't be afraid to have a conversation about the awkwardness that you have. Very often that's the best way of relieving the tension. You can both talk about being nervous and will have something you can share.
Don't go to a movie that will just be ten times as awkward, sitting there in the dark for an hour and a half with him wondering should he put his arm around you or try and kiss you and you sitting there wondering if he's going to do that. Go bowling, the arcade, the fare or other such fun activity. Something where you can be doing something and not sitting across from him trying to figure out things to say. Bowling is an awesome one.
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reader, dirtydevil  +, writes (6 May 2012):
As u said that he is shy..u should appraoch him first..as u said it seems like ur crush has the same characteristics as me..i think u should ask him straight..or u give him the opportunity, so that he can tell u without hesitating
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): I think it’s good that you’re both aware of the feelings you have for each other, even though it makes things awkward. Hmm. Try starting a conversation using every day topics: ask him about yesterday’s homework, what he had for lunch, etc. It may seem trivial but I’m sure it’ll get the conversation going. Try remembering what you guys usually talk about before and bring them into the conversation as well. It’d be good to talk on familiar grounds since that’s a lot more comfortable. Remind yourself that you need to talk if you’re going to continue this friendship or maybe even progress into something more. Know that he’s probably afraid of saying something silly too so don’t worry and give it a go. I hope it works out for you. Good luck.
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reader, _crystalxo  +, writes (6 May 2012):
You both opening up about feelings is a very good start! Try relaxing before you talk to him, take deep breaths and slowly stimulate conversation. Maybe try going out somewhere like a movie. You are still spending time together and you arent able to talk much during the movie, but after you can discuss how the movie was and hopefully if there is an arcade you can challenge him to some games (hes a guy, he wont say no :P) and most of all be CONFIDENT in yourself, if he is interested in you...you are already in the right direction ! Good luck .
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