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writes:is it normal for a man to look at pretty young teenagers? yes of course it is but he really stares, when out shopping or going for a meal i can see him as he examines them from head to foot when he thinks i am not looking, this year when we were away on holiday i could sense his giddiness when the teenage rep paid us attention, he would look for excuses to talk to her, we had a blazing row and he made me feel bad for commenting on it. i adore him, we have been seeing each other for two years, i probably have insecurity feelings. i dont know what to think
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): By the way he should not be making YOU feel bad for commenting - he should be bothered you are upset. The fact he's not and he's trying to excuse himself says it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): It seems we have to excuse all men because they just 'have' to gawp. If its just very very young girls I find that weird. Maybe they're just lucky they're with women who let them get away with it - if they're with a woman at all. What men don't get is that women don't like to be stared at in an overt way by strangers its really un-nerving. Glancing is one thing but staring or gawping (yuk). I had a marketing client once who would actually adjust his chair in meetings so he could stare at me more successfully (usually my legs). It made me feel like a piece of meat. So guys listen up.... we like compliments, we like a little glance maybe a smile but NOT gawping at us from head to foot. Personally if a guy stares (and I mean makes it obvious) then he is acting single, he's being disrespectful and not paying you the attention you deserve. If he simply can't help his little habit then he should do it when you're not around. The main thing is that its making you (quite rightly) uncomfortable. I have been out with a couple of guys who stared at women and I told them straight - I find it disrespectful. Keep doing it and I'm finishing with you. They stopped. If they hadn't got the intelligence to care or realise they weren't worth it anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): Mr.Anon I should have written Most of the men look.I work in a male dominated field.I have seen almost all the guys I know ogle.I am glad to know there are some exceptions out there.I am sorry still tough to believe though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): He would be inhuman if he didn't.
Nothing wrong with admiring the general health of a young lady. Just because a man is old, it doesn't mean he is dead.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): Every man looks? Really? Have to talked to every man? I don't look at other women when I'm in a happy relationship. I can hear you scoffing and rolling your eyes but, no, seriously, I don't. Because I don't care. I've been with my girl for 3 years, still head over heels in love with her, and I don't care what else is out there. So I don't look at the girls anymore than I look at the guys, or the trees, or the lamp posts. It's all just scenery to me, I have the main act by my side, so what's the point of examining every other bod out there? I haven't ogled since I was a single fellow on the market for a new girlfriend. If your husband can't keep his eyes in his skull, he needs to look at himself and see how happy he really is if he feels he has the right to ogle girls right in front of you. Start ogling other men and see how he feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): Sad News on Dear Cupid Channel at 5:00 AM India Time.
Every Man looks.The ones who are sensitive to our feelings and loves us are discreet about it.
The ones that aren't sensitive and don't care about us do it openly.Its very embarrassing for the woman who is with the guy than for the woman who is getting stared at.
Men are more physical than us.Kindly have a look at this other thread.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-all-men-picture-women-they-fancy-naked.html
If you are not able to stand it,please do not put up with it.You should be in a relationship that makes you feel secure and happy.
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