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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I like to know how can this be survived, I have a problem of thinking about my sexuall fanticies everytime especially when I'm on my bed, feeling like some beautiful woman could lie on my bed (or even her's) with me. This desire has became a problem to my emotional state, since that I'm a virgin I don't know how it feels and everytime when I see girls that I like or who are simply hot I start to imagine the things I would want to do with them and that imagination sticks on my mind. I think about them most of the time, even when I need to focus on things which I'm doing, for example: studying. It's a problem to me.. all my freinds have done it except for me, I don't want to be a virgin for ever, I want to get laid Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 I can't tell you how to overcome those thoughts, but you can survive, because I have, and so have all males throughout history. So don't worry.
Sleeping with someone won't relieve that pain. It will actually increase it, but that is fine. Old age will solve your problem.
As to "the other thing", your time will come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): number one priority is get into masturbating and don't feel guilty about how many times you need to masturbate daily. Your sex drive needs a higher level of need so do something about it to satisfy the intensity of your sex drive. You will eventually find a lovely lady, but lusting after every beautiful woman you see is not helping.Woman and sex and love are about more than indiscriminate lust.Besides in these days of AIDS people must be more careful and more wise in their sexual choices, so that they do not inadvertently contract a sexually transmitted disease. You cannot tell who is infected by AIDS just by looking at a person. Informed sexual choices and the use of condoms are essential. Even if you do find a woman you do like it is better to get to know her respectfully first and delay going straight for sexual relations for a while, even if she is willing to have sexual relationsTry to choose a discerning woman who readily admits to a high sex drive (to best suit you) but where the woman is steadfastly determined NOT to have indiscriminate sex with any interested man. But who instead is determined to find a good man, and really is resolved to remain FAITHFUL to one man. Then if you really like a woman and want to build a relationship and have got to know each other and both determined to be faithful, then both get tested properly by a Doctor for any sexually acquired disease before you commence sexual relations.And remain faithful to that one woman, rather than indiscriminately go from woman to woman. Which is why regular masturbation helps you to keep stay safe.The second thing you need to do is develop some passions other than sex. Harness your sexual energy into other areas. Do some studies, or attend classes to learn new skills. Develop some hobbies. Read more widely and improve your mind.Work on keeping very fit. Play sport. Visit the gym regularly. Stay very healthy.Do some volunteer work amongst people who need help. Satisfy your current high need for sexual satisfaction with other uplifting activities which are part of making a country great rather than constantly lusting after women.And visit some interesting places in your own country. Learn to appreciate the best things about your country, rather than get bogged down with lust.Join a group in your country that raises money to help those whoAnd do not discuss with anyone how many times you need to masturbate daily. It is not the right of anyone to know. Except you alone. Only you know, and you should keep it to yourself. It is private.If your sexual desire is going way over the top even for you then set aside one weekend from Friday night to monday morning to masturbate as often as you please. Though use a lubricant and wash and dry yourself well more than once a day so that you do not become sore from too much rubbing. This is just to help control your sexual desire when it feels out of control.In ancient times sailors on long see voyages had to survive by masturbation, it works, and will help you survive your high sexual drive.Do not take any notice of anyone who suggests that there is anything wrong with giving yourself self sexual satisfaction.men and woman have been masturbating for thousands of years.Also learn to appreciate woman respectfully for who they are as people. Not just concentrating on lusting after women. Because if you just concentrate on the sexual attractiveness of a woman you will miss out noticing many other good qualities that some women do have (and some do not). Life is not just about sex. And fantasising about bedding as many women as possible and then actively trying to bed as many women as possible does not guarantee success in life.There are better ways to seek success using only LEGAL ways to do so. If you do become very successful at a skill and become financially successful then the girls will throw themselves at you. Then you will have the pick of the most beautiful women.
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