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*cHrIsTiNa*
writes:okay here I go my husband got a job grave yard... and im so used to him being home with me and our son.. I try abd try to get used to him being gone five nights a week.. but some how I cant ... he thinks I assume he is cheating I don't cause I know he won't risk losing my son and me for a simple mistake... so can anyone give me advice to accept his work???? Reply to this Question
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reader, *cHrIsTiNa* +, writes (31 August 2010):
*cHrIsTiNa* is verified as being by the original poster of the questionokay thank u guys for giving me advice on my husband working over night... we finally got a it all figured out he gets three days off and four working..about the cheating he know what he will lose if he ever cheats on me THANKS GUYS!!!! =D
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reader, daletom  +, writes (29 August 2010):
You don't give many details. The key is to create a schedule that makes time for you, your husband, and your son to be together - partly, but not entirely, all 3 together and partly one-on-one in pairs. This may require some adjustments to work-times, sleep-times, meal-times, etc for you and your son.
Another significant detail is "why" he works this shift. I won't try to list all the possible reasons; there are many, both good reasons and not-so-good reasons. It may be helpful if the two of you can plan for the time when this situation can change. Or, it could be an opportunity for the two of you to sit down and specifically work out a solution together. In the long run that experience itself can strengthen your marriage.
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reader, promiker +, writes (29 August 2010):
Yeah it's hard I use to work at night in then use to sleep all the time in the day time. But hey at least you got the weekend to him right! In if you think he is cheating on you why not just spy on him one night ?
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