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writes:Hello everyone,Since the beginning of the year, I have developed a crush on an exchange student, who has been transferred to my college to study for 3 years.I do not have any classes with her, and whenever I see her - she is always with her friends.Coming from a humble viewpoint I believe that it is very rude to interrupt someone's conversation, especially someone who you don't quite know very well. Hence why I don't approach her during those situations.I then introduced myself to her in person, on an odd occasion where she was alone and got her number. From then on due to the fact that I could no approach her while she was with her friends I would have a few conversations with her from time to time through facebook and through text.After I introduced myself to her, I realized that it looks like she would intentionally ignore me whenever I am in the same area as her. This applied the same for myself, as I would often ignore her in crowded situations as I wouldn't want to cause an interaction with my crush in a noisy or unsuitable area.I've heard this either means that someone really hates you, or they actually like you. She, and myself are very shy people - So I am clenching to the hope that we are both doing the same thing for the same reason.Whenever I actually do, get to talk to her she is always smiling and seems somewhat happy by my company. She was always joking around saying, "Let's study together" and I would always offer her help in any troubles she would have in her studies.But since then, our interactions have been less and less frequent.. I think my inability to actually talk to her in person is slowly fading away whatever small thing we had before...It's been 3 months since I have talked to her in person, and not a single day goes by where I regret not being able to...As I mentioned earlier, I just do not want to seem like an ***ole interrupting her conversation - But that really is the only moment that I can actually approach her.. Unless I wait for another time she is alone (And it's been 3 months and that opportunity hasn't arised)I don't feel comfortable asking her out, as -1: I don't know whether she has a boyfriend or not2: I just don't know her well enough to ask her for something like that, It might seem quite out of the blue for herAs you can probably guess, this is the first time I have ever fallen in love - And I tend to over think a lot of these things, as I have never really had any experience with these sorts of things before.Perhaps I should just man up and talk to her even if she is with her group...I'm sorry for the long question, and help at all will be GREATLY APPRECIATED.Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): Dude, 3 months since you talked to her in person!
You need to listen to Leonard Cohen's "I'm your man". That guy knows what women want.
You need to walk up to her and tell her you want to take her out. Don't put any pressure on her, you just need her to know you're interested. Be confident, believe she is going to agree to come hang with you. Even if she says no, at least you tried...but I doubt she'll say no if you are collected and kind when you ask her.
Remember she SHOULD like you, because you are an awesomw guy...if she doesn't like you yet, it's because you haven't offered her the chance to get to know you. ASK HER OUT! If she is with her friends, walk up and introduce yourself to her friends. Make friends w them and you will be welcome to say hello to her even when she is w them.
Also, you should be acknowledging her EVERY time you see her! With a smile and a hello at the least. I would start with that.
Good luck man!
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reader, wolfred bane  +, writes (20 August 2012):
 Just do it. Yanna58's right. The worse cast scenario is a rejection. And that hurts much less than if you never did try.
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reader, yanna58  +, writes (13 August 2012):
You're really worried about putting yourself on the line. But the worst thing that can happen is that she'll say no. I promise that if she does reject you, you'll move on much faster than in you keep pining away from afar. Ask her out. You've got her number, so CALL HER!!! You'll never know if she's interested unless you ask her out.
One more word of advice: this isn't love, this is a crush. Right now, you're very attracted to this exotic woman and you've put her on a pedestal. She's only human. Remember she farts and burps like the rest of us. And she may not be nearly as amazing as she seems. You'll never know what she's really like unless you ask her out.
Just do it!
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