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*zsong
writes:I love my girlfriend Nicole with an intensity that ive never experienced. The problem is, I want to do nice things for her all of the time and want to spend every waking moment with her. She tells me that I dont need to do nice things to show her how much I love her. I seem to be trying to please her all of the time and I dont know how to slow down. When I do nice things for her she seems to become overwhelmed. I know that she loves me, I know that she wants to be with me, but I always push for more. How can I stop smothering her. I truly want to grow old with Nicole and need to "be normal" in this relationship.HELP What is a good balance of nice, but strong and dominant but not bullying? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): my boyfriend is smothering me right now so I think I can relate.
From my experience, when I am smothered I don't have time to do the things that make me me.. Such as yoga class. I'm stress all the time cuz i can't get the day to day stuff down. And when he says he's not going to see me on a particular day he shows up & wonders why I'm not happy to see him. Truth is he takes every opportunity to see me. He wonders why I don't call or drop by & have no opportunity to do so.
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reader, Ozsong +, writes (9 October 2007):
Ozsong is verified as being by the original poster of the question My wife of 17 years went to a funeral in the UK, met a guy she knew when she was 11, and left my daughters and I for him, she never came back and never gave a reason for leaving her daughters and I, I am scared of loosing Nicole, I love this woman and truly dont want to lose her because of my own stupidity. Nicole is everything in my world. I know I need to calm down and that the one way that I will lose her is to push as I am, but how do I calm down, I try and then trip up and the cycle starts all over.
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reader, Ozsong +, writes (9 October 2007):
Ozsong is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAll is great when we are together, its when we dont see each other for a few days, then, its like i am compelled to do something to show her that im always thinking of her. Thats when I smother her, then she puts up barriers, and I push harder and on and on and on...... what should I be telling myself to stop the smothering, I know i need to be emotionally tougher, but how to get there... Im strong in work and sports, but a whimp in love.
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