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writes:how can I stop my ex from ruining my friendship?The other day I was hanging out with my ex boyfriend and I mentioned this fight I had with my friend of 17 years, it was important to me and I was just venting, I want to keep that friendship and work through the issues, if anything I was just asking for understanding and advice. Instead, my ex, who never liked this friend (I didn't know that until this moment), decides that its now his business to deal with her. He said he was to ream her out (yell at her) about how she's an awful person, self centered, and a bitch. He had only met her four times...I told him that he had no reason to think that for he only met her a handful of times and the issues between her and I are our business, my battle, not his. It just seems like he is blowing this way out of proportion, the fight was a big deal to me but I don't see why it is to him?? Can someone shed some light onto why he is getting so tangled about this? He's really determined to tell her off. Maybe its a thrill for him? a game? thanks for the advice.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (10 September 2010):
For one he is thinking of a solution to your problem as this is just how guys think. Girls just want understanding and to vent just like you said, but guys want to solve the problems and tell your friend up front about her ways are his way of solving it.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Are you sure all his feelings for you have disappeared? Perhaps he views this as a chance for him to prove how he can take care of you?
Perhaps he has anger issues and he views this as his chance to vent his stress from your break-up.
There are a number of reasons he could be doing this, some may not even be related to the fact that you are his ex. You know him far better than I. Was he the stressful type? The man with the anger issues? Was he defensive or possessive of you?
I hope that helps.
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