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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for two weeks now and it was going realy well till he started slapping me on the face, he hit me once before when we used to date and i thought he had changed when i got back with him but i went round his and he just kept hitting me on my face over and over and he thought it was funny, he didnt slap me with full force but enuff to mark me, i love him loads and dont want to eave him what can i do for him to stop been so agressive towards me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): Hey,
First of all no matter how much you excuse this it is NOT ok for him to hit you. He may think this is ok but its not.You need to talk to him and tell him how much this effects you,and if he cant understand, apologise and stop then there is something wrong with him.There is nothing wrong with you but if this goes on it may come to happen that he may hit you when he gets angry aswell.You deserve better then to be treated like this and it seems like you dont think you can do better. You need to treat yourself the way you should be treated. I know you love him and its hard to think of ending it but if he really loves and respects you he shouldnt do that. Good luck honey,id love to know how you get on if you wanna contact me?xxx
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reader, Cag Lee "Apollo" Adarma +, writes (22 April 2007):
 Hey,
first of all this post is not about him.
This is about you and how you are judging your self worth.
Him hitting you is wrong and, as everyone else said, you should get out of the relationship, but after that i fear the esteem issue will still persist.
At your age there is a want to be validated by the opposite sex; that your beautiful, intelligent,interesting and sexy, but first of all build that knowledge base within yourself, as it is better to change yourself than to try and change others.
Don't be afraid to realise that you have insecurities and the fact they have come from somewhere or for a reason.
This may hurt but in the long run, as you move into your 20s, being strong in yourself will prevent you from getting into a relationship like this where you have much more to lose than just the partner.
I hope you can learn that your prescence in a partners life is a PRIVILIGE for them and NEVER a right.
PEACE AND GOD BLESS
The Capt
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reader, fluffer +, writes (22 April 2007):
Wow hun, you can't put up with this rubbish, and for sure this guy is total trash. Don't let him make you feel bad about yourself. A real man dose not slap a woman. Do yourself a favour and get out of this relationship. Your only young and it's not worth wasteing the best years of your life on this jerk. Get out there and have some fun with your mates, you wont get this time again. You just got to be strong. Good luck babes..
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reader, kenny +, writes (21 April 2007):
 All of the posts have given you really good advice here, get out now while you still can. Any guy that hits on a girl is just a plain coward, ditch him and find someone that gives you the love and respect that yuo so rightly deserve.
Good luck x
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reader, sue.h1 +, writes (21 April 2007):
get the hell out of there girl, leave him alone, he aint worth it, after two weeks he does this well maybe the police may change his laughing ways if he was introduced to a cell for battery, if you stay then you are the biggest fool ive heard of in a long time, it wil only get worse and i mean alot worse, what is now a slap was last week a tap and next week will be a punch, then a kick then a full on beating, i cant understand why you are so attracted to a pig but that is derogatory to pigs, get out of this relationship walk away and dont look back, the only reason to stay is if your red and white hung up from the ceiling and your name is a PUNCHBAG, LEAVE HAVE NOTHING MORE TO DO WITH THIS COWARD IT WILL ALL COME TO A BAD END IF YOU CONTINUE good luck with your future you deserve someone better x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): Tell this bloke off and leave him for dead, hon. He is one of those infantile critters who have to have someone to bully about. You said you were "his" girl,...so now he thinks of you as property. You are nobody's property. And you don't need to be his punching bag. He may call it "joking about" now. But it will get worse. Tell him to go and slap one of his mates in the face. He won't, of course. It would cause a rearrangement of his features. He knows it and he is a coward. There are many others out there who would love to have girl friend they would treat well. I don't know what other "qualities" Mr. Slappy has that you like so much. But whatever they are, other blokes have it ten times over. Go and meet some of them. Take care, hon. Tom
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reader, Midge +, writes (21 April 2007):
 Why are you with him? A leopard never changes his spots and if you've only been in the relationship two weeks and he is making any aggressive suggestions, its only the start of worse to come.
Tell him that you love him, but its over!
Perhaps not what you want to here, but I can honestly say that the first man to put his hands on me in any aggressive manner will wish he had never met me. He would need to ensure that if he hit me, I stayed down, because if I got up "His arse is grass and I'm the lawnmower!"
Have enough respect for yourself to know that you can do so much better than that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): how can you love someone who hit you? you deserve more respect. at least respect yourself. get out of this destructive relationship. imagine if you ever had a child with this guy? would you let him hit your baby too? i dont think so. get out now!
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reader, xkittycatx  +, writes (21 April 2007):
im sorry to say but get out of it same sorter thing happrend to me mum even if they say they will change they never really do and you may love him but if his hittin you he cant love you and think that much of you and he finds it funny just get out of this realtionship if you can even call it that and if you let him get away with this he will do more to you happerned to me mums mate to and she nearly died becasue this man got worse and your only yound you will find someone who really does love and doest treat you like dogs mess on the floor
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2007): Get out of this relationship now. There is no respect, let alone love, being shown to you, and you're worth more than this. there are plenty of peole around who will be decent enough to treat you well. don't get stuck in this - it may only be a light slap??? but he is still assaulting you. Think, it could get worse.
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