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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear everyoneBasically, i feel sad easily if the girl i like doesn't contact me. Since my last girlfriend broke up with me (and cheated on me) i've felt quite insecure. Whenever i feel something for a girl, i get upset and feel sad, unwanted etc if she doesn't want to talk often. After that break up, the only girl i really wanted seemed very interested and we'd talk every day, then she would reply every 2 days, then 3, then after 1 week, then after 2 weeks and so on. She just lost interest and that's fine, however now i worry about that happening.Recently i have met a girl i really like, we get along great and talk every day. She works 7 days a week and it would be entirely reasonable if she doesn't talk to me so often. but for now she does.If i send her a message and she doesn't reply for a few hours i start to worry she will never reply to me. I dont do anything about it, i dont message her again or anything like that. i just start to worry. we can see each other in person occasionally as she works so much and lives an hour away so we talk a lot via messages. I know this is my problem and its unreasonable, and i don't act any differently towards her because of it. I simply feel worried and sad. One day she won't be able to write to me every day and i am worried when that day arrives i'll feel terrible. So far it's going wonderfully and i am trying to not think like this, however i could really just use some advice on how to deal with these feelings as i know they are not right and could be very destructive if they affect my behaviour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2015): if your accomadation allows it get a dog..they take up a gret deal of your time in walking or jogging or skateboarding whilst exercising them. Time will pass quickly. You will meet new people and you wont fear lonliness because dogs are smart enough to know that if a man feeds and walks them they are their best friend!Only thing to remember is to never let them out of the front door first because then the dog thinks he owns the world and is in charge of his owner.Sometimes this makes a dog totally paranoid as they dont understand cars,traffic lights, shops and cash and they may become either very timid or very aggressive to compensate.While all this is going on you will scarcely have time to notice your girlfriend hasnt replied to your texts immediately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2015): You need to change your view from, "If she does not contact me back, I am unworthy of love" to "If she does not contact me back, we were incompatible, and I deserve someone who wants to be with me."
It sounds simple, but you need to do this consciously (literally say it out loud to yourself) until it starts to sink in and you actually believe it!
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