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writes:I dropped out of university a few years ago, I feel it was the right decision and am going back as a mature student in a few years. I was suffering with social anxiety/depression at the time (have not seen a GP about this) and still have it today.My career is actually doing very well and I am moving city for a new job next Monday, problem is I have no friends here (though I did share a drink with work colleagues while temping etc...) and none generally.I want to make new friends through things like Meetup but am worried people are going to think I am weird because I am starting off from nothing on Facebook etc., not to mention that most of the people in my new workplace are about twice my age though I will try to make friends with them. I know some cities like London have support groups for people with social anxiety etc. but sadly where I am moving has none I have checked, which means I can't even make friends with people in the same boatWhat should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2015): hey well done on the successful career but dont feel worried about finding new friends.In a way you are your own worst enemy because you sound so successful that no one would ever know you were beating yourself up over anything at all.You will find friends so long as you find things you want to do as leisure activities, be it self defense, boxing is very good for confidence building , archery for the thinking type ,go jarting for the i just want fun type and so on.For Gods sake dont undermine yourself when you are doing so well at life and the world is your oyster..how about singles holidays or volunteering.You have no idea how many girls would love to feel interested in you if you got out there and did these friendly activities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2015): The first step is for you to see a doctor about the depression and ask for some trusted anti depression pills to help you to combat it as it is sometimes a lack of the feel good hormone.Then you must try not to let it get you down if it takes time to make new friends because many people go through this.As you sound fairly capable you could join a cooking evening class.eg indian or chinese cooking. Then when you make new friends or meet someone special you can ask them around for a meal!
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