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writes:I'm in a new relationship that is going well, however he keeps bringing up sex. He says he has a high sex drive and would like to have sex everyday but that he doesn't have to. I myself have a lower sex drive and i tend to shy away from talking about sex, and usually try to change the subject. I have told him this and he has compensated and has said that it "doesn't really matter", but he still occasionally brings it up which is annoying and seems to pressure me. While i am no prude, how do i feel more comfortable with this and get the best of both worlds?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 January 2009):
 First off SEX between two people who love,respect and trust each other is wonderful. It can be quite magical.
What you need to do is tell him how you feel. Maybe the two of you need to focus on the more "Karma Sutra" stuff. It's about turning a partner on and staying turn on, not just the act of sex. It's about sensual and sexual exploration and then some.
If you don't feel like sex then you shouldn't feel pressured. Sex is about sharing, bodies and emotions. At least for women.
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (30 January 2009):
 i would totally agree with anonymous... if you feel pressured, tell him he has to wait like a rediculous amount of time to do anything other then make out, or w/e ur comfortable with. because like anonymous said this will force him to making a choice are you worth waiting for, or do i want to get laid tonight. kinda of a thing.... and if he leaves, hunny its good you found out before you got really attached!!good luckxoxoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): How long has this relationship? If it's really early like you say, and all the guy is talking about is sex, then that's prolly the only thing he has on his mind. If you want to see if he is really likes you and wants a honest relationship, tell him you do not give up your body easy and that he has to wait at least 9 months to even get a blowjob. Most older guys that feel in their prime (age 18-25) feel they deserve sex early, by telling him he must wait, he'll have to make a choice of waiting because he loves you or leaving because it's too much time to wait and your not worth it. My girl made me wait a year and I had absolutely no problem with it because I was head over heels for her, sex was just a complete bonus for me. I hope this helps in some way, I have plenty of advice from past relationships. :)
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