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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Could you please advise on my current practice of having sex with older men. I have a boyfriend my own age with good sex but I crave sex with much older men, They are usually business men passing through and I go to their hotels for seedy sex, I'm not sure what I want you to tell me because I really enjoy it, but I feel like it is still wrong. I guess I enjoy the attention that I get from them but I now feel myself needing more rougher/kinkier/riskier sex to satisfy me! My boyfriend has no idea about my other side and would be very shocked if he knew what I get up to sexually. How can I stop?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): Hi
Simple dear do you want loving sex with your b/friend your own age to progress together or do you want o be an old mans play thing to be used and abused with no feelings. i know what most folk would choose as there's a name for woman that practise the later.
Really think about this as you are young and although you say you crave this attention it will come back to haunt you in the end.
hope I have helped you
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reader, Sweet111 +, writes (25 December 2007):
You've got to decide what's most important to you, your boyfriend, or the "darker side", which to be fair to me, you sound pretty young to be getting up to that kind of thing. If you think that the partnership isn't worth fighting for then I think that it'll make your mind up for you pretty much, but then, you've got to take care, nothing says that this "darker side" is going to forfill everything you want. Do these men you sleep with have wives, kids etc?...I can only advise you, but it would be possible for you to help and advise your boyfriend of how to please you more than he is at the moment, and he must be besotted by you, which is more than I think you feel for him or you wouldn't find the need to go elsewhere for sex.I hope you work it out with your boyfriend, rather than continue to have sex of the darker side with these businesmen who in the long run will probably pick you up and throw you around when you're no longer needed. How would you feel if you found out that you're boyfriend was going elsewhere with other women??
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reader, leonard j, Douglas  +, writes (25 December 2007):
You already know what you are doing isn't right,and that you have a good relationship with your B/F, even though in bed you want more than he can or sexually is giving you. These other men don't have a problem asking you sexually,for what they won't ask their wives for in bed. So they are just using your body to get what they want sexually, And perhaps, One of these days,You'll get more than a one-night-stand, You'll end up with AID'S. If you want to be a whore,then get out of your present relationship,he dosen't need AIDS, and neither do you.
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reader, Joe158 +, writes (25 December 2007):
 Well firstly, you should try and stop going to other men and you should understand that the urges you having are NOT bad. They're urges...they're things you want, and are obviously there for good reason. You have to ask yourself what exactly about these sexual encounters do you really want. Is it the older men part? The rougher, "kinkier" sex? Or are you just wanting to spice up your life?you said that "I guess I enjoy the attention that I get from them ", maybe this is because you are not getting enough attention from your boyfriend at the moment? Or you feel you are not appreciated enough? Of course no offense meant, but it sounds like you are going off with other men to solve an urge which ISN'T being satisfied at home.From this, you can suggest to your partner what you want him to do to you. If it's the rougher/kinkier/riskier sex then just talk to your partner about it. If he truely loves you he'll go for it. Hey, he might even enjoy it! Just say you want to try something new, not that you don't want to have the same sex you were having originally, but just want to try something different that you've always wanted to try.Hopefully i've helped in some way, or at least shed a little light on the situation.~Joe~
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