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*nsecuregirl
writes:I still love my ex. I broke it off with him, 'cause he was too jealous. It was tiresome for me. I know he wasn't the one, and that he's a jerk, but I love him, so still, what he tells me hurts me. The thing is, he knows that I've been meeting new guys and all, even though I don't wanna date, they're just friends and I can't help it if they become interested in me (I don't lead them on, by the way... they know I'm not ready to date). I just like having male friends.He called me a slut because of this, and I know, I know, he's not worth it and he's just saying that 'cause he's hurting... but I can't shake off the sadness. He basically said something like: "I really thought you were different. You're nothing more than a pretty face. That's the only good thing about you. You'd be my ideal woman if it weren't because of how you act around other guys".I haven't even done slutty things. Bring in the tough love. How do I get over it and him, how do I stop wanting to talk to him? How can I stop caring about what he says or does?
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reader, Kjo  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 you have to believe you are valuable, but your must not value yourself because you keep listening to the garbage pooring out of his mouth. You don't love him or yourself unfortuately because if you did you would do him and yourself a favor and work on yourself and move away from this guy.
Would you live in a garbage dump? Would you physically pic up and move into a garbage dump and live where the smell is unbearable? so why would you put up with this Guy?
Quit with living in a garbage dump and work on finding a beautifull place to be. You can't rely on other people to tell you how wonderful you are you have to know your a great person. If not your future in garbage dumps awaits!
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reader, SillyB +, writes (14 October 2010):
 Yes, he sounds like my ex. He told me that men will use me and I'm used.
Look, he's being extremely manipulative. The best thing you can do is to end all contract and surround yourself around good and positive people.
He sounds right an ass. So controlling and manipulative with his words. NOT worth the headache.
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reader, princesskilala +, writes (14 October 2010):
I know what you mean I just had the same thing happen with my ex. There's nothing wrong with having lots of male friends and having them like you in the end. It's normal. It's expectd at some point for them to have intimate feelings for you. If your Ex can't deal with it then he can go blow himself. For him to tell you that only let's you know how he always felt about you. Guys are really honest when they're on an emotional rampage. So what he told you is how he really felt about you. I don't know about you, but that's enough to set me off. You only miss him cuz you miss the company cuz now he hurt you and unless you like being hurt.
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