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writes: Ok, I feel very envious of my ex. He has a lot of friends, female friends that is, who're your typical bubbly, kind of ditzy, but hot friends. Not very deep or anything. They party a lot, and go to the beach. OF course he's not the only guy in the group, but he has these friends.I'm the opposite, smart, not very sociable and definitely NOT hot. I feel so envious and jealous, so insecure... I don't know how to stop. I know this will sound very selfish of me, but I hate seeing him have such a great time, when I'm usually home alone, not many friends, and definitely not going out and having such a great time. I also get very depressed that I don't look as good as his friends do, especially in revealing clothes or bikinis (it's summer now here). I wish I looked that good, that guys gave me the same attention they give them. I'm sure my ex greatly enjoys the view.I always feel bad because I wish I could wear those clothes, but I have fat thighs. I'm not overweight, so losing weight is really hard. I'm like 10 lbs away from my perfect weight, but I can't seem to lose them.How can I stop feeling this way? How can I stop caring about my ex and his friends? I feel so empty, pathetic and jealous. I hate myself. Help?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 You sound like you still have feelings for him and you are feeling inferior to his female friends. you need a pick me up. You could always find ways to lose the extra pounds if tha't what you want but you will have to get motivated to do that. Try having your hair done, buying some new makeup, go buy some new clothes and give your self a bit of a lift. You need your self esteem to be boosted then you will see that a lot of this is in your head. Go out with the friends, be seen and then you will feel better.
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