A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:well ive been with my boyfriend for a while now, and we are pretty sexually active. although we both would like to have sex, we want to do other things before that. so far i have tossed my lad off twice and he loves it to say the least. we want to move on to him fingering me, i dont know what it is but im just not comfortable about this... if i think about him doing this im fine but then i realise that it will hurt a bit and that im really self conscious doesnt help...i know that i can trust him and that he would never think of telling anyone anything if i didnt want him to i would love to let him do this to me, as it would please him and myself a lot. is there any way that would make it easier for me to not be so self conscious and for it not to hurt so much?i would really appreciate your help. x
View related questions:
fingering, move on Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2009): You have to focus totally on your partner and pleasing him to forget yourself. He should/will do the opposite.
A
male
reader, rcn  +, writes (1 August 2009):
 Have you ever masturbated? That's what fingering is, but he's doing it to you.
Sex might a little, but fingering generally does not. As far as being self conscious. You know why you're with him. He knows why he's with you and wants to do things with you. He shouldn't question why you're with him, just as you shouldn't question why he's with you. Doing that to you, he may feel uneasy that you're tossing him off and he can't return the favor. It's about enjoying the person you're with.
...............................
A
female
reader, cherry cherry boom boom +, writes (1 August 2009):
Well you should try fingering yourself first then when you think your ready then tell him but if your not just let him know. And before you accually do it tell him if he tells any one then you will brake up with him. This ya girl, peace.
...............................
A
female
reader, IrishLeprechaun  +, writes (1 August 2009):
If you are so worried, why don't you just approach him and say that you are worried. I think I'm this case the phrase, 'honesty is the best policy" really comes I to action.
He will understand and maybe you could try some other time. But please approach him.
Best of Luck
Hannah
...............................
|
