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writes:I split up with my boyfriend about 12 months ago. We lived together for a while after and was okay but then we moved out. We've been good friends since and been very close.We've both had our problems and been there and supported each other. I think now my feelings for him are coming back and I don't know how to deal with it. I just can't stop being horrible to him now though. Deep down I just want to hold him and tell him how much I love him and care about him but it all comes out wrong. How can I stop it? I just don't want to end up pushing him further and further away.
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reader, lboy +, writes (16 July 2008):
 dear reader,
all i can say is, we always hurt the ones we love, we don't mean to, maybe you know deep down inside that your first break up hurt the two of you and your afraid of being hurt like that again so your pushing him away without meaning too, i suggest you sit him down, tell him your sorry for the way you treat him, if your not ready to tel him you love him yet then just tell him your going through some stuff and your not really yourself right now, but if you are ready then tell him the feels you had for him before are starting to return, tell him that just being friends has reminded you of all the things you loved about him, tell him you love being there for him but knowing your only there as a friend is eating you up inside, trust me ive felt this way about guys before, you need to tell him otherwise he'll move on and you'll kick yourself everday wondering what would have happened if you told him, we can't predict the future all we know is nothing is set in stone, he may not return your feelings now, but some day he might, tell him how you feel and wait for the day he's back in your arms, it might not come, but if you truly love him then you'll wait for it. thats all the advice i have for you.
good luck
lboy
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): This is a very difficult situation you are in; you heart is crying..."hug me, hold me" and your actions and words are portraying the opposite; why, there must be a reason; is he with somebody else; are you scared he will reject you?There is no quick solution for this; you will have to talk to him; vow, yes, it might be difficult, your scared, BUT that is the only way; a good TALK; if there is no hope of getting back togehter then you need to let go of these feelings a.s.a.p; you are only going to make yourself miserable and might end up loosing his friendship and respect;
Be strong; be honest with him and take it form there;
Good luck; keep us posted.
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