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writes:I need help!!..Long story short Im 20yo n have had a pretty normal life..well.. I am gay.. but I hate it..I wish I wasnt gay. I dont know why or at what point in my life I became this way... Id like to know why I turned gay.. think about it all the time. I hate when Im riding the tube or anywhere else n suddenly see happy couples making out or just being "happy".. i dont have that.. never had it.. cant have it.. Im tired of being alone and knowing I cant find anyone to be with.. I heard of some antihomosexuality camps going on all around the country.. although I, obviously have nothing against gay people.. (*Mod note: comment removed because its offensive) ..I wonder if this method actually can stop me from being gay.. is it too late for that?? anything else i can do? i cant find "love" or an enjoyable company neither on boys or girls... this just suxxxx.... no1 just will ever understand... i dont even know why im writing on here but maybe a word from some1 will help me out looking this differently or just a good advice.. i dont know... thanx 4 reading anyways... thanx,... Reply to this Question
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (31 January 2010):
 I think you should see a therapist. I don't mean that in a mean or sarcastic way. Just in a serious way. It can help you understand your sexual preferences, and why you don't feel like you can connect with people on a romantic level. If you can't/don't want to see a professional. Openly talking through your feelings with someone could help.
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reader, jodaii  +, writes (31 January 2010):
Sorry hun, but being gay is biological, you cant "turn gay", and you cant "turn straight" either.
I know it truly is hard to accept, I went through months and months of hating myself... but now I've come to accept it. And just because you're gay doesnt mean you have to act on it right away, and it doesnt mean you cant still experiment with women, its just saying that it might not thrill you as much as you could be.
And you'll find someone sooner or later, honestly you will. Gay or straight, everyone has relationship problems ie lack of it but soon enough something will come along who will accept you for who you are.
You dont like homosexuality, were you brought up that way? I definatly was, I even now I dont dare tell my mother who I really am, but you can change if you let yourself :) Go to a gay parade, that really helped me, it was wierd at first but by the end I was totally psyched!
Its been a year since I accepted myself and began telling others, and Ive been happier since. Admitedly, Ive been in a disasterous relationship which has sunk my ship in many ways, but life goes on, forgive and forget etcetc, you should just do what you can to make yourself happy. And AntiGay camps wont work, and will hurt you physically and emotionly, dont put yourself through that!
Wish you lots of luck and a hopeful future, Kat xx
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reader, Baramig +, writes (30 January 2010):
Baramig is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx for ur answers...well there isnt anything Im not "telling" u.. I cant b one of those "happy couples making out and being happy" simply cus I just dont like it..To start with, I cant find any1 to do that with.. and by that I mean both boys and girls.. not because I cant get a bf.. i bet i would if i wanted to but thats the problem.. i dont want to!, i dont like being gay.. hate it.. I am but I hate it... Ofc Ive gone out with girls b4 but its just hopeless.. like them too but guess I go (in my mind) more for guys than for girls.. r the antigay camps the only way out of this situation??..... dk what to do honestly
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (30 January 2010):
I'm sorry about what you are going through; it can be a lonely experience to feel you are abnormal and don't fit in. I would encourage you to look in your telephone book and phone your local Gay and Lesbian association. They usually have counselors who can talk you through your sexuality and also put you in support groups with others going through this. All the best.
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