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*shley777
writes:Well, how to start this, i have a bf and we are together for about 2 years. And for these past few month, i somehow know that he is cheating on me with his ex gf. He was dump badly with this girl and thrown him away from her life. That girl cheated on him and have a new bf though. My bf love her so much. Then about a year later we meet up, and we started to be friends and build a new relationship. I was hurt when i know that he is still in love with his ex gf. But i just somehow deal with it. Its not once not twice, we did break up for a while because of his Ex gf and his feeling towards her. That was a few month later after we were in relationship. But then everything turns out to be just great, he love me i love him so much. And now, i just new that for about 1 year and half after our relationship, he was cheating on me with his ex gf. his ex gf broke up with her bf and come back for my bf. What surprise me is that my bf still loves her after 2 years of relationship, that girl did tell me every single thing what they do behind my back. and hell yeah its damn hurt. I was shocked and i don't know why i keep on apologizes to this girl. I feel sorry I feel bad I feel angry I feel disappointed I feel sad. I admit, Im soft and i just cant be mean, and thats what i am. For the thing i've done to my bf, i drove all the way across the county just to see him, we did almost everything together, i cooked for him, i sacrificed a lot for him, yet i just cant believe he could do this to me. I did tell on of his friend about this, and he said i'm one in the million. ya right. Then that girl keep on blaming me that because of me they cant be together and all that stuff, and she did tell me what my bf said to her, for such he loves her more then me and he would leave me for her, but he never did leave me for that girl. She did not apologizes for all this. Yes i blamed my bf too for this. This girl wont let me tell my bf for what she has told me, but i did. and my bf apologize and keep on apologize. He claimed that it was a long time ago what he said to his ex gf. But then this thing keep on rolling in my mind. The best part is, when i asked him to choose, he don't know which to choose. It hurts a lot. Then he decide to choose me and go on with me. And he letting her go. But how can i know how far is the truth? I did warned him about not to contact or see or have an affair with that girl or else i will never forgive and see him till the end of my life and i did warned that girl that i don't want her to contact see and have any affair with my bf,and i said in such a mean words. I'm being such a loser but i just love him o much. He make me act this way. This is my last chance for him and somehow i just cant trust him and i'm afraid that they wont stop. I trust my instinct which it so far never been wrong and right now i don't feel like anything. I used to cry badly, but not for now, i just can't cry anymore. It just i need time to heal and trust him back. What should i do to be Ok? and trust him ? should i? Ive meet him, he did change, try to win me back with his act. But i don't know. This hurt. Since then i never asked him about that girl and how they put the end of their story, i don't want to start a fight or remind him of her. but seriously this is killing me. i did asked him if he love me, he did and i asked if he serious with me this time and he said he is. Help.. and, we are long distance relationship. So we rarely meet.
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reader, Ashley777 +, writes (10 February 2011):
Ashley777 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut then, i asked him, to let me go. he wont. he want to stay with me.
now it has been about 3 month since then.
i dont know if i should ask him about this, my friends said not to ask anything and try to pretend that nothing happens, but not to trust him so much, see if he'll change. if not. he lost me. i dont lost anything,but he did, i did try my best and very hard to save our relationship. and i really think, he dont deserve me at all. but it worth to wait and see right?
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reader, petina1  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 he is having his cake and eating it, that's what they say when you are in two relationships. He can't shake lose his ex girlfriend, he has strong feelings for her. When she did not want to know him, he found you and developed feelings for you. When the Ex Girlfriend wanted him back he went. Sounds like she is playing games with his feelings and he can't help himself. He is torn between you both. the long distance relationship is not helping at all. you are in a very difficult situation. The main thing for him to do is to have nothing else to do with his Ex. If he really can't do that and keeps going back to her, then y ou must let him go because he will only follow his heart.
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reader, phoenix69  +, writes (9 February 2011):
 Ok no in my opinion you cant trust him if you are asking if you should trust him you already know the answer you just need confirmation from other people. We wanna believe deep in our hearts that cheaters can change and even if they can whats to stop them from doing it again and again. It's not our fault perhaps were to nice and easily let people in or sometimes affraid of being alone or forgotten. You need to wait for love you will truley know when it comes and it will be worth waiting for...
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