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female
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30-35,
*opeful-desire
writes:I have been with my boyfriend and I am in love with him, I love the connection we share and the silly times we have. I have never felt the way I do about him about anyone else. The issue: in my past I have had intimate times with others. He has not. He doesn't quite understand me and I find it difficult understanding him sometimes. He is so special to me but he doesn't see that in an intimate way. How can I show my partner that he is intimately special? What things can I do to prove to him, although I had my bad experiences and had been with other people that he is clearly the most special person to me , both intimately and loving?? Please help. I have never done anal and this is something he wants to do with me and I will try anything for him. But please help suggest ideas on how I can make him feel /see he is the most intimately special person to me I've ever been with. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 November 2014):
 Dont. If he is insecure (sounds like it) then notjing you do will wver be enough. He needs to sort this out himself. Ive been with insecure men before. If they are hung up on being inferior in some area or other (not always the sexual area) then no matter what you do or say, they will find their reasons to continue the negativity and self destructive behaviour.
You do not owe him any "proof". You are with him, you care deeply for him, and thats something he either sees or never will see. You can not proove it in any way that will be enough for him. You're already with him, that alone should be enough.
My advise is: stop talking about this or discussing it with him. The more you allow him to dwell on it, the more power you give this insecurity of his.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (7 November 2014):
 Other an the obvious physical pleasures you could write im a poem, give him a back rub, ask him to teach you about some spore likes but you don't care too much about. Just hug h and be loving is all anyguy really needs.
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