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*ietcoke.1
writes:Theres this guy who used me, he seems to think that he can come back to me whenever he feels like it ! Which im not going to lie he can, i really like him. The problem is i dont want him to think i am there for him whenever he wants, i want him to see me and think that he hasnt got a hold on me anymore(even if its not true)I think this would be the first step to showing him he cant treat me like he did.So how can i show him that he hasnt got a hold on me anymore?Thankyouu, your advice is appreciated! Reply to this Question
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reader, dietcoke.1 +, writes (19 March 2011):
dietcoke.1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI think for the long run its for the best ! i need to find someone whos not going to treat me that way, he is not that guy obviosly Thankyou for all of your advice its been very useful ! I will just have to cut him out completely , it will be hard but its what iv got to do Thankyou x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): You need to move on and stop liking him....At the point where you are not bothered whether he sees you doing well or not, that is the tome if he does see you and know he no longer has a hold over you but then you aint even bothered aye....I suggest you stop obsessing about him and move on...By obsessing over him this way , you are giving him control and do not think for a second he wont see right through your bravado...So I say forget him, make him irrelevant in your life
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): I feel for you as I was in a similar situation years ago. But you only get hurt in the end anyway. In my case I would look as if I was getting on with life, having fun, over him and it would always be his cue to sail back into my life - only to disappear again. The best thing you can do is forget him and have no contact. Hard I know but believe me, in the long run it's best.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 March 2011):
 You say no, and move on from him. Forget about this boy who has used you, what is it you like about him that weighs up for the way he has used you? There shouldn't be anything. So quit being his rug, stop feeding yourself an illusion that he and you will be happy together. If thats what he wanted you would have already had it.
Just say no, and go look for something better.
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