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writes:I find myself becoming obsessed with certain women I date and I feel it always messes up anything that could be. I am in this situation right now again. I am 32 and a good looking guy. When I meet someone I am extremely attracted to I tend to think about (obsess) them all day long. I even become a facebook stalker. I send quirky text messages just to try and make the girl smile throughout the day. I only think about spending time with them all the time. It's like my life immediately becomes about them. It's not like this with all women, just the ones I could see myself with for a long time. I just started seeing this one girl and I don't want to become so obsessed I push her away like I have done in the past. I don't understand why I get this way. I guess my question is how should I approach the relationship without pushing her away? How much space do I give? Do I ask her out every chance I get or what? She is a busy girl with lots of friends, very attractive, and fun. Please any advice would be appreciated. I don't want to lose this one.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (13 February 2012):
 Watch the show Friends. Watch the show when Ross is madly in love with Rachael.
Don't do what Ross does. Ross is insanely clingy.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 The best thing you can do is be straight with this girl. If she likes you enough she wont want you to change who you are just to please her. Just explain to her how you become when in a relationship. I'm sure she'll understand and probably think it's nice to care so much.
It sounds like you enjoy the closeness of a relationship and when you are single you feel lonely? I'm not saying this is the case but it is how it sounds. You want to give the girl the best you can and you are very devoting and committing it seems. :) You will find a girl that likes this about you and wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with her. when you find a woman like this, you will be really happy and probably not as obsessive. xx
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