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writes:Hi, So I'm in a relationship and we both seem to be in it for the long term. We used to be super awkward around each other and didn't know what to say. We've gotten a lot better at talking and coming up with conversation but right now we are kinda in a spot where we have nothing to say to each other. My attempts at conversation don't go anywhere and both of us really aren't conversationalist. Do you have any suggestions on what I could say or how I could possibly start fun and interesting conversation? Reply to this Question
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reader, IanHenryCooper  +, writes (17 July 2015):
 I teach photography, so obviously I am biased, but why don't you photograph each other? No need for naughty pictures (unless you both want to), and the camera in your phone will do to syart with if you don't have anything better.
Go online to the website "PictureCorrect"; it has newsletters covering all sorts of techniques that you can easily learn together. The site is free, as are the newsletters for you to download.
I have no connection with PictureCorrect apart from a normal user.
Harry.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 July 2015):
 My suggestion..... When there's this lull in your's (and his) conversation.... you pipe up and say, "Sooo, Hunchy-Bunchy, what's new and interesting?" .... and let that trigger the conversation..
Good luck....
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reader, MSA +, writes (17 July 2015):
 First, I would suggest going on in person dates - movies, park, meals, etc.
When on the phone, I would suggest playing 20 questions. Either ask true or false questions, or what .... do you like, or what if you were.... what would you do type of questions.
A few years ago, my boyfriend and I used to play the spelling game. One person would start with a letter of the alphabet, the next person would add a letter, then take turns to make a word. The person who makes the word wins.
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 July 2015):
 What is your BF into?
Comic? Movies? Books? Games? Does he draw? Write? Make floral arrangements? (well, you know.. maybe no that last one, but I'm sure he has hobbies and you do to and to talk about something you are PASSIONATE about (think fan-girling over) is always a start of a great conversation.
And like WiseOwlE suggest make MEMORIES together - a tour of a museum (even if neither of you know much or are into it) because it will be fun to EXPLORE together.
And TRY and have these conversation in person, not over text. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2015): You need to both come-up with creative ideas of how to have fun times together. You need something interesting and fun to do to keep your minds busy; and that will minimize minutes piling up with little to say to each other. Find out what his favorite games are, and share yours. Listen to whatever music he likes and let him know what kind you like. Take bike-rides or walk your dogs together; if you have pets. Sometimes a relationship needs fun activities like gaming, movies, and outdoors to keep it going. You don't have to carry-on a constant flow of conversation.
Go to museums and look at ancient artifacts and science exhibits together. Visit the zoo and look at the exotic animals. When you find interesting and fun things to do, you get so much to talk about; you can't stop!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2015): Look up cool facts and say them to him. That will get his attention and maybe a conversation going.
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