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writes:Hi, I am a 22 year old guy, and I am very sensitive, very committed, and very respectful, about a year ago I broke up with my ex because she fell pregnant... by another man, so as you could imagine, I was devastated and my life went pretty dire from that point. 5 months ago, I found a new love, an amazing woman, someone who makes me get butterflies whenever I see her, the thing is, due to what happened with my ex, I have a hard time trusting my new girlfriend, and I feel like this is going to ruin what could be amazing. She is at university and I travel to her when she asks... which is a lot, we get on so well, and we both want to stay together, she is sticking by me through my insecurity, how can I trust her fully? How can i overcome my problem?
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reader, aim  +, writes (13 November 2007):
 I guess i can relate since i am sensitive and all as well.
I know trusting is a really really big issue. But love is all about taking risks and hoping that by the end of the day you still love her/him in the morning. You just have to discuss with her why you are feeling scared and just being cautious or insecure towards trusting her. No relationship is perfect. Not all relationships last. More importantly, not all relationships end tragically. Just let her in. But not on a one-time big-time deal. Do it slowly. show her your trust gradually.
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reader, Happy to be me  +, writes (11 November 2007):
Talk to her, tell her why your scared. Girls like it when your honest with them it will make her feel more close to you when she realizes how much you open up to her. If you to really love each other you will get through it just make sure she is okay. Its hard after you have been hurt but you don't get anything good by sitting around scared. You have to trust her. Thats what a good firm relationship is built in! Hope this helps! Don't let the fear of striking out keep you from playin the game! Best of luck!
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