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writes:HI, im 19 im male and live in the uk. i realy want to be able to approach girls confidently and know what to say. im a good looking lad and i cant understand why im to scared to approach. i fear the girl rejecting me coz i look to young or skinny. and i can visualise their face bieng offended that i approach them. this stops me from having fun and dating. how can i overcome this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (28 May 2008):
 Visualizing these girls rejecting you is doing nothing for your confidence. You're convincing yourself of the outcome before you even try, which could be half the reason you find it so difficult to approach women.
Try it the other way around - visualise her smiling, laughing, being friendly. Realize that not /all/ women are going to reject you.
There fear of rejection is always there, but be brave - you never know until you try. =)
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reader, :):):) +, writes (27 May 2008):
This a pretty common problem and nobody wants to be rejected, but you wont get anywhere without trying, as hard as it may be.
Try and build up your confidence, maybe talk to girls online. You could even join a dating website, this should help you improve your communication skills.
Not all girls are monsters who'll reject you and there are plenty of girls out there looking for someone too.
Once you've improved your confidence, it wont be so daunting approaching girls in public.Just be youself. As you've said, you're a good looking guy and you seem genuinely nice from your post so you dont have anything to worry about!
Good luck
xxx
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