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writes:Hi!!! I've been seeing this guy for a while now and we're starting to have some communication problems 1.) B/c he's busy w/work he owns his own business plus work a unpredictable job on call! He tells me he's not seeing any1 else but @ times I think he is. I've been go'n threw a lot emotionally and has taken my frustrations out on him and told him I didn't want to see him again. When in reality I adore him, please tell what I should do and how to not let my emotions get the best of me? Reply to this Question
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reader, estanie +, writes (18 November 2008):
 it's so funny...sounds like my boyfriend! i wonder if we are dating the same guy lol i'm kidding! but i would have taken it just like you did and thought it meant sex. (which I have wanted for so long so I would be happy if my guy said that!) but from what it sounds like...ummm i think it just means all he wants is for you to love him and show him you do. and from everything you have mentioned...he means just bear with him and be a little more patient! it's frustrating...I KNOW! but it's just something you have to put up with if you wanna be with him. is it fair? NO...but i think that he was trying to warn you in the beginning by saying, "2 get 2 know me 4 me" and now that you brought it up again...he's probably saying love him for who he is and not what you want him to be like
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, I guess another reason I'm slightly confused is b/c I asked him even in the beginning what it is that he wants out of this & he told me 2 get 2 know me 4 me, so I stressed 2 him if this is about sex only then make it clear. (I can prepare my self) so I asked him that question again a month ago & he said good luv'n (NOW) he said it didn't mean sex he said it meant both. Now I know good luv'n can mean several different things depend'n how u look @ things. So please tell me what good luv'n means to u?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks again gyyggqQqququestion
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reader, estanie +, writes (15 November 2008):
your question: what can I do or say to him to get him to express himself to me?
my answer: i honestly have no idea! i've been with my guy for 2 years and he hasn't opened up to me or expressed anything to me. but see...one thing that i have learned is that he is the type where if there is a problem...he keeps to himself and then the next day, be over it and move on! i wish he would talk to me and we both open up and have good communication, but we both express differently. he knows that it's best to talk about things but it's just not what he is use to. i have noticed he'll mention little things like work or family problems...he doesn't get in detail but at least he lets me know what's kinda going on. i don't know if your boyfriend is the same way...but i do agree soon enough-he will come around!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with both of the females he hasn't giving me any reason besides the fact that he doest call he text me but I guess I'm use to having things my way. So now he's being stubborn with me, he wouldn't talk to me 4 a week. He has finally come back around what can I do or say to him to get him to express himself to me? I don't want to think one thing but feel another. Its funny b/c an old lady stop me n the grocery store & starting talk'n to me about her relationship & I told her mind she adviced me not to give up she said he'll come around. "I'm Confused ; )
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reader, estanie +, writes (14 November 2008):
i went through the same thing with my boyfriend, but it in the long run...it boils down to trust! you have to trust him and believe he wouldn't lie to you and actually wants to be with you! i now can trust my boyfriend...he text me all the time while he is at work and spends all of his free time with me. i also know that he loves me and if he was in a room with a bunch of females and they are naked...he wouldn't dare to talk to them and get out because he knows that would hurt me and he really wants to be with me and only me. on the other hand...if it's a gut feeling that he is unfaithful...then you must go with your gut! it's confusing to tell what's in your head and what's in your heart...but if you can put all the insecurities aside...then you'll know!
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