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*utterfly7743
writes:My husband was having an emotional online affair. It started the day before our 18th anniversary. It took place with a girl he went to school with. He would sleep until 3 or so in the afternoon get up and be online with her till 4 or 5 that next morning. So the kids and I never had any time with him.I suspected something going on when our anniversary came and he didn't even say one word about it.I started logging into his account and stuff. That's when I checked his chat box cause he didn't close it out anf Checked his emails. What I found literally made me sick. I let it go for almost 2 weeks before saying anything. Wanted to make sure it was for real. We are trying really hard to put this behind us and move on. The problem for me is wandering why he has torn men apart like this. When I asked questions he avoided them. We have always had a wonderful relationship emotionally and physically. I never dreamed of this. Anyone got any advice for me to make it easier to move on and put this behind me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2009): he is being a coward by not giving you some answers. he knows why he cheated , just doesn't have the balls to confess his wrong doings. please don't think because you have now confronted him, that this affair is over. be more watchful and check the emails. i am pretty sure he will be up to his old trick again.
sorry but this is reality. he will try again, until he is found out, over and over agin.
i think you need to read the havoc this hooking up with people from the past causes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009): When most girls growing up they think... i'm gonna have kids, a dream man, big wedding etc. This is not usually the way life works. What they don't tell ya in school is...Marriage does not work. There are so many divorces these days.... why? Because people are about change. Divorce rates just keep going up.In the old days people wanted to move on alot too but because of the religious issues and shame with a divorce alot of relationships suffered, people were forced to stay with someone they did not want and stay quiet about it.No matter what person you get in life chances are eventually things will dry up a little. No relationship is set in stone. All it takes is just one man/woman to change the focus of love from you to them. Marriage does nothing to cement a relationship. Even if marriage did cement it would you want to be with someone that did not want you forever?The main worries of most people are how to get out of the marriage without making a mess and paying alot. Some even stay unhappy for the rest of their lives and settle for those reasons. A zombie and shadow of their former happy selves.Sorry this happened to you, you seem like a nice person. I know your hurting because he did this but you will get though it.
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