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36-40,
*inicky One
writes:I think there's something wrong with me. I can't orgasm during sex with my boyfriend, but when I'm in the tub, under the faucet, I orgasm a lot. I've been using the water masturbation every since I was 6 years old! I always fake moan with my boyfriend and thought that maybe that would help stimulate me more. When he gives me oral, it makes matters worse, because I just sit there, thinking about how boring it is. He really wants to please me, but I only get aroused by him-that's it. Even when he suckle my breats, I have no feeling. Not my neck, thigh, nape-nothing. I really want to feel a real orgasm by a mans penis, but could I ever? My boyfriend told me that he believes that I'm not that comfortable with him, but I am so comfortable. My last boyfriend thought that he could make me orgasm, because he said that his last girlfriend said she couldn't and then he had her comin. (yea, right) (roll eyes)What could be wrong with me? Will I ever experience what I read in books or what hear from my friends;Orgasms?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 January 2009):
 With some women, size is an issue, but even a normal sized guy can get in deeper in certain positions. In my experience, it seems to go deeper in the missionary position if the girl brings her legs up almost to behind her head and spread wide as comfortable. Or even with woman-on-top if she squats. If you like the balls banging your clitoris from behind, that indicates to me that you enjoy clitoral stimulation during intercourse, which either he or you can also apply with fingers in many positions. Just keep experimenting and have fun.
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reader, Finicky One +, writes (17 January 2009):
Finicky One is verified as being by the original poster of the question OMG! Double M you are so funny!
(giggles) crazy. (smile) But my boyfriend is a beginner in the giving oral part. So I really understand that he could never help me get off orally if he isn't experienced. He tries so hard. He even tried to do different positions with me(such as picking my body up and turning me upside down while standing, giving oral) That doesn't do nothing but make the blood rush to my head!
Oh, and satindesire, I don't have feeling with my fingers. I tried. I laid off the tub thing for a min and it didn't work.
I even had and experienced oral giver(my ex when I was with him) that doesn't help me.
What I will say is that I think I prefer a man with a long and thick penis? Because I kind of felt something in my body when I had sex with my ex. He went in deep. Oh and when he did it to me from the back, his balls(sorry for boldness) hit my clitoris and made me like it better.
So is it my boyfriends' size, then?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (17 January 2009):
Well, it would seem that you are essentially normal if you can orgasm "a lot" in the tub with water stimulation to your clitoris. One would think that oral stimulation to the same area by your boyfriend's tongue would even be better.
Does he really know what he is doing down there? Based on your posting, you apparently become numb to most anything he attempts, such as suckling your breasts, kissing your thighs and "whatever" elsewhere. Are you really turned on by this boyfriend? In my opinion, there is probably nothing wrong with you. His lack of experience as a lover seems most likely. Guess you could get back into the tub and invite him to share the experience.
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