A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am a bisexual girl and would like to meet a girl. I hung out in alot of the lesbian bars for a long time but I am not attracted to those girls there are they are mainly butch looking, not to mention that it is always the same old crowd that go to these places. Plus I have never felt fully comfortable there as I am very feminine and a girly girl so tend to stick out! I am really not into the internet dating thing either so that isnt an option - I would prefer to meet someone in person.When I do out to normal places (ie straight bars/clubs) I see alot of girls that I am attracted to (like the usual pretty, feminine girls etc) Most of my friends who are BI always say straight places as the best way to meet girls, in fact they meet most of the girls that way.Anyway so does anyone have any tips on how I could approach girls in normal straight places???! I think by soceity's standards I am attractive, but I am not sure I am confident enough to approach someone....at the same time I am quite scared of making an idiot of myself! So any help or tips from anyone (girls with experience her or even guys) on how to approach girls in this way or test the water a bit or how to make a move or ice breaker or tips in these situation whatever etc!Many thanks!PS please dont tell me to try other gay places....believe me when I say I have been to most in the city and it is just not for me - same as online dating, hence why the best option is the meet people going out in a normal bar type place as I socialise in these places alot...so really only want advice on that!
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reader, youngandconfused90  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 This is 2008 almost every girl is open minded about bisexuality or they are bi themselves. Just be yourself and be forward about who you are and what your looking for. Don't be afraid to tell people your sexuality, be proud of it, flaunt it! If you put yourself out there it will pay off. Most girls wouldn't be mad by you coming over and laying some moves down, they would be faltered. Just go over and strike up a meaningless conversation, once you get going things will just fall in place. They'll know what vibe you are sending out. Go for the younger ones, the younger they are the more open-minded they get. Also go for a girl who isn't in a big group of girls. Go for one is alone or with one other person. Trust me take the risk and you'll find what your looking for. I hope I was helpful. Good luck, this is a hard one.
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